I have the sports package with 18" wheels. I like the heft. It doesn't feel too heavy to me, it fact I wish all cars were like that. And I'm a woman with weak arms and small hands.
So....... maybe something's wrong with your set-up........
Present: 2013 M3 coupe (Azurite Black, Black, Piano Black)
Past: 2010 335i coupe (Monaco Blue, Cream Beige, Grey Poplar)
+ miata nut (2004 GT/LS and 2013 GS/Club Edition)