Finally things are going right!!!!
looks like connecting h6 and h9 to 12v fixed the remote start :-)
also while flashing I noticed there was a option to flash the evo-can to d2d. so I did that and started cutting wires and now everything is working as it should with d2d.
the only difference is that you still need to connect white unlock wire to the blue unlock wire on the remote start (not the evo-can)
but if doing w2w my diagram is correct. ill be remaking it.
now the only problem i am having is this key wrap crap!!!! i can only do the remote start if I have the key right next to the key barrel.
so im about to go get some 24 gauge wire and see if i can fix that. im just happy I can use d2d and eliminate half of these wires.