Got it all working, had not turned on "view in locked screen" in Mail in Notifications on iPhone.
So much for PNP.
Its only taken BMW 10 years to get to this stage in Australia, we don't even get "BMW Apps".
The UK seems to get everything, have been told that BMW Apps can be turned on but there are only a couple coders in Australia that can do it.
But now being able to get Mail & Messages on the go is great, and the play by voice works fine when reading the messages & emails.
X5 F15 M50d White, 20"rims, Yellow Calipers, Ceramic Pads. Better off saying what it does not have and that's a B&O Audio System, otherwise all option boxes are ticked.