Like others have said you can get them "waived" or reduced. I got mine reduced from around $600 to I believe $150-200, but they just deducted it from the sale price. I had to pay the "detail/prep" fee but I demanded and received a refund for it because my car was delivered with swirl marks that weren't there when I test drove.
2008 E90 335i // Black Everything // photos
COBB tuned / QTP e-cutouts / Helix FMIC / cp-e DCI / AWE BOVs / Black M6 wheels + Toyo Proxes
(and yes, I am a girl)