eBay really is a joke. This is only going to go one way, in favour of the buyer. This story is made even worse by the fact that this guy has clearly done this several times before according to the OP and despite this eBay still take his side as it's their "policy". The guy should have been banned from eBay for life as soon as he pulled the scam more than once. The trouble is eBay don't give a shit as long as they get their cut of the money.
Gumtree (another eBay abomination) is just as bad. I've seen several threads on car forums about 1 particular guy scamming several people out of thousands on Gumtree and they don't give a shit.
Got myself quite worked up about this this morning.
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