My service advisor (SA) told me about the software recall because I had the passenger airbag light eluminated with a passenger in the car during the startup and wanted the dealer to check. He checked and realized that was one of the issues on the software recall list which dealers received from BMW and customers will get them in mails later.
Because he has to update the software anyway, he gave me the alarm activation for free when I asked him to program the "chirp" sound for me.
I don't think BMW will give you the auto door unlock due to the safety issue. You can choose to have all doors unlocked when you press the keyfob once instead of twice as the default setting.