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      11-11-2013, 01:11 PM   #96
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Originally Posted by amanda hor$t View Post
tough situation but sounds typical asian... huge power distances and it's all about respect. though the daughter (your gf) should push back a little (i.e. "when you permit, you promote").

i would say i have become very american through the years, and my parents (and their relatives/friends) still try to pull that old asian b.s. from time to time. it's a mental game: talking down at you like you're a child/bum/crazy, guilt trips, covert aggression... i'm on top of it though. the working mantra is: whatever, they're old (mental image of abe simpson).

it's probably not your place to tell her to push back, but that's what i would say.
Thanks for your honest and unbiased observation