By the info you have given, I'd say your guys' cars are very similar in performance and hp. His AT makes up for the added weight/drive train loss of the xi. There could be a small difference in hp, but the biggest difference I see here is that 60' time. Match his 60' and you probably will have a better ET. Performance wise, I'd say the tunes are pretty close. IMO
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