Congrats on the new car. There are a ton of options out there but I'd suggest looking at Avant Garde or VMR wheels to start.
These are the Avant Garde M310s in 19":
For a drop, I'd suggest a spring upgrade like the H&R Sports or a spring and shock replacement like the Koni FSD/Eibach Pro Kit or H&R Cup Kit.
For the headlights, you can do a set of OE xenons if you can find them cheap or a set of aftermarket Projector90 headlights.