welp - I found it - 2 hours of searching! then I asked you guys for help then I googled it differently and found it on a e90 M3 and coupe only on this website and then crossed it on realoem and sure enough - same dang breakdown but they included the part number.... ridiculous. I swear to god my car has this - ill take a picture of the one on the other side.
http://mfans2.com/parts/catalog/E90N...t_arm_bracket/
http://www.realoem.com/bmw/showparts...51&fg=75&hl=11