You do not need any book it always comes down to this. You said and but she heard.
A little song that explains what really happens in spite of what you think happened. Trust me I had this argument with the wife and she finally conceded I never said what she believe she heard, I had witnesses to the fact. And a woman will tell even if that is true you never said it, all that matters is what she believes is true.
The other thing you have to concern yourself with is what I call the Woman Question, which the song also covers. It is those well worded and placed questions in a middle of a conversation or fight which are design to have no correct answer, no matter how you answer it, you are completely screwed and the woman will twist it and hear something completely different.
I personally have master these questions and I tell you when you use them on woman they will be totally pissed off at your for doing exactly what they do you. But they will stop doing it back to you that is for sure.
Than remember this