e92desired, bummer to see that it sold. I'm also located in Pitt by the way. I'm in a similar boat having a hard time finding one with all the options/combo I want as well.
Not sure exactly what you are looking for, but have you seen these?
2010 335xi White/red. Looks modded, I think tail lights might be reversible but the mods might also imply that it was driven hard.
http://www.autotrader.com/cars-for-s...Index=14&Log=0
2009 335xi - no m-sport
http://www.autotrader.com/cars-for-s...gIndex=2&Log=0
2010 335xi
http://www.autotrader.com/cars-for-s...gIndex=2&Log=0
2010 335xi - miles were too high for me
http://www.autotrader.com/cars-for-s...Index=13&Log=0