Update. Got car back without VR.
This what the service order states:
11678 W W REPROGRAMMED ENTIRE VEHICLE PER SI 846106. NOTE: RETRIEVED ENABLING CODE FROM BMWNA. HOWEVER THERE IS NO FUNCTION TO IMPORT CODE AS OF YET, THEY ARE AWARE OF SITUATION AND A SOLUTION WILL BE VERY SOON TO FOLLOW
It is my understanding that once they received the enabling code to turn on the VR, that there was no GUI function that allowed them to do it.
So I guess we will be waiting for '04'
No biggie. Dealer is almost literally next door to my wife's place of work. They will call me when the fix is in.