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      07-05-2012, 03:44 PM   #45
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Since it seems your family side is established (I assume you are satisfied with the result), I would work on your occupation - to make sure it is something you enjoy doing.

I would stay in your line if there's an opportunity to grow, where you will make more money while doing something more enjoyable. If you would still hate the higher paying job, the satisfaction in making more $ will not last long. Don't get caught in the money = satisfaction cycle. Like others have said. You'll always be wanting more.
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      07-05-2012, 07:34 PM   #46
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Start living like there is no tomorrow man... and stop watching the news.
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      07-06-2012, 09:17 AM   #47
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1 due this August.
B.S. in Public Administration
Fail. You're not going to make money in something there's no money in
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      07-06-2012, 10:35 AM   #48
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Fail. You're not going to make money in something there's no money in
i didn't wanna be so harsh on the kid, but Public Administration is the degree that people get while working at Wal-Mart or Target.

......and when they get it, they stay at Target or Wal-Mart because it's better.....
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      07-06-2012, 05:18 PM   #49
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21.. 2 kids... Wife doesn't work and a car you can't afford. Man, where to start? As others have said car has to go, wife has to work. If you don't make some changes now it's only going to get worse.
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      07-06-2012, 05:49 PM   #50
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I would think taking care of a 1 year old takes quite a lot of work...+ being pregnant..
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      07-06-2012, 05:59 PM   #51
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i didn't wanna be so harsh on the kid, but Public Administration is the degree that people get while working at Wal-Mart or Target.

......and when they get it, they stay at Target or Wal-Mart because it's better.....
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      07-06-2012, 07:18 PM   #52
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Success is relative so long as your basic needs to survive and flourish are met. Most people are unable to meet the first let alone the second...
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      07-06-2012, 07:57 PM   #53
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Don't focus so much on what you don't have. You're a dad, that's the most important thing ever. If that don't make you feel successful, maybe nothing will.
I'm 26, getting married next year, have 1 child, and make $45k yearly.
Could I want more? Absolutely.
But am I happy with everything as it is? Damn right I am
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      07-06-2012, 10:22 PM   #54
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You will have an uphill struggle for the rest of your life. Might as well give up now.
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      07-06-2012, 10:29 PM   #55
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You will have an uphill struggle for the rest of your life. Might as well give up now.
Feel better about yourself now?
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      07-07-2012, 09:19 AM   #56
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Feel better about yourself now?
I always feel good about myself.
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      07-07-2012, 11:04 AM   #57
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I always feel good about myself.
I guess if you regularly go around kicking people while their down, it probably would give an ego boost.
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      07-07-2012, 02:32 PM   #58
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I guess if you regularly go around kicking people while their down, it probably would give an ego boost.
Hell yeah!
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      07-08-2012, 03:13 AM   #59
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Dude you're doing awesome, me I'm 21 make less then 25k a year, have a girlfriend that's most likely sleeping with another dude while I'm stuck here working the graveyard shift at this hospital. My studies are going wrong, its my 3rd year in college and I'm technically considered a sophomore/freshman with 103 credit hours, I still live with my parents and the only thing I can call my own is my car...

so yea, don't complain about your life, you are pretty well off...
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      07-08-2012, 03:51 AM   #60
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      07-08-2012, 06:49 AM   #61
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WTF brah. I'm 23 and never worked a second in my life. I'm garbage compared to you. I think you're pretty successful. Get over the notion of upper class because most rich people are still just middle class. The fact that you have a kid at such a young age while not being broke means you're doing alright. I think you need to come inside less often, that's all.
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      07-08-2012, 08:40 AM   #62
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good god dude, your 21 and have two kids..Also married?

I'd be suicidal.


I'm 21 as well..

Al jokes aside, finish school and see what happens..
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      07-08-2012, 10:52 AM   #63
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WTF brah. I'm 23 and never worked a second in my life. I'm garbage compared to you. I think you're pretty successful. Get over the notion of upper class because most rich people are still just middle class. The fact that you have a kid at such a young age while not being broke means you're doing alright. I think you need to come inside less often, that's all.
So are you one if those spoiled kids ??
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      07-08-2012, 12:30 PM   #64
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A lot of wise words in this thread. I've enjoyed reading every post here.

I can relate to how you're feeling. My parents have been unemployed for years and opportunities just didn't seem that ripe from where I came from (Rowland Heights, CA). However, I worked hard with the encouragement of my family, got into a good business school (UC Berkeley), and landed a job at a technology investment bank. It was through perseverance and confidence without attitude that got me to where I am today.

As someone said, success is relative and comes in different ways. I truly agree with this statement. Some classify success as financial independence while others think of success as being content with life. I was 22 when I landed my investment banking gig and was probably making more than 98% of people my age in US, but I wasn't feeling truly happy. I wanted to make an impact by doing something I truly love (working at a startup or some sort) that could make a lasting impact in the world. Money may provide the means to being happy (being able to live, eat, driving a nice car), but it doesn't bring true happiness from within. I speak that from experience.

I hope I shed some light for your situation and I would recommend making a few changes:

- First immediate change I would do is to change your car if you can sell it a reasonable price and get something more affordable.
- Second intermediate change is to finish your degree.
- Third long-term change is to find a job you truly love, while keeping family at heart. Your wife may need to get another job to support the new child. This is just personal opinion, but you should have planned the second kit better.

Work hard, then you can play hard.
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      07-08-2012, 05:07 PM   #65
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I felt the same way when i was 21. You want everything now, the career, the house the American dream. My advice to you is to be patient and do what you can now and also it would be wise if you get rid of the BMW. You'll eventually get there.
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      07-08-2012, 05:50 PM   #66
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I felt the same way when i was 21. You want everything now, the career, the house the American dream. My advice to you is to be patient and do what you can now and also it would be wise if you get rid of the BMW. You'll eventually get there.
Unfortunately, young age is the time to have all those things...

Pure personal opinion but when I am over 60, I will absolutely care less about money... the same goes with a 401k, retirement and the like. When you are that old you.re needs should be minimal and you should have lived you're life to the fullest when you were young by that point. I feel like everone in this country has that backward only to be sorely disappointed when they hit that grandpa age and actually have that money and have no idea what to do with it or don't have that health to take advantage of it.

Just my honest 2c.
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