Dating women with kid/s; deal breaker? - BMW 3-Series (E90 E92) Forum

FwdFtl · 07-10-2012, 11:35 AM

I am opposed to it.

Would you pursue a serious relationship with a women that has a kid or kids? before you answer, this woman is the hottest woman to you and has fit every requirement your simple brain could imagine?

Deal breaker?

Yes or no? Explain.

Sara504 · 07-10-2012, 11:37 AM

I wouldnt be here if my Dad didnt.

MidwestGolfBum · 07-10-2012, 11:40 AM

Have in the past, would again. Just remember, the kids are more important than you. If they like you, you are better than if just she likes you.

FwdFtl · 07-10-2012, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Sara504

I wouldnt be here if my Dad didnt.

So I would have to assume you would date a guy with kids right?

Simple3 · 07-10-2012, 11:46 AM

Long before I met my wife I dated a girl with 2 kids from 2 different dudes (yea, I wrapped it up tight) during a dry spell I was having with the ladies. I had fun with her sure...

When the baby daddy drama started happening. I looked for a way out without looking like a douche.. caught her in a lie and ended it.

Funny thing was she said she was tied up but I saw her a few years later pushing around a kid in a stroller. Found out she got knocked up and had lied to me about being tied up. Thank goodness for rubbers...

My conscience was clear..

Sara504 · 07-10-2012, 11:46 AM

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Originally Posted by FwdFtl

So I would have to assume you would date a guy with kids right?

I've done it once. I dont think I'd ever do it again. I couldnt handle the "baby momma drama"

Patrick719 · 07-10-2012, 11:48 AM

Just depends on where you are in life IMO. When I was younger and tried dating a girl with kids it just didn't work out. It wasn't really the life I wanted at that time. If you want to go out every weekend, take her (and only her) on little vacations and things of that nature, it's very difficult especially if her kids are young.

Now that I'm in my 30s I am dating a girl with 2 kids. We've been together 2 years now and things are still great. I enjoy doing things as a family.

CollinsE90 · 07-10-2012, 11:50 AM

They're single mothers for a reason, typically.

Draven · 07-10-2012, 11:54 AM

I tried. Doesn't work for me.

kevinbahnz · 07-10-2012, 11:54 AM

I have had in the past but wouldn't again. I am also a father with 2 kids with 2 different girls. I'm trying my best to make the 2nd one work so I wouldn't be in the situation again.

FwdFtl · 07-10-2012, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by CollinsE90

They're single mothers for a reason, typically.

Dang Collins, no mercy! ha

Seems like pretty split responses.

FwdFtl · 07-10-2012, 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Simple3

Long before I met my wife I dated a girl with 2 kids from 2 different dudes (yea, I wrapped it up tight) during a dry spell I was having with the ladies. I had fun with her sure...

When the baby daddy drama started happening. I looked for a way out without looking like a douche.. caught her in a lie and ended it.

Funny thing was she said she was tied up but I saw her a few years later pushing around a kid in a stroller. Found out she got knocked up and had lied to me about being tied up. Thank goodness for rubbers...

My conscience was clear..

This is what I would be afraid of. Some of these women today yikes!

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Originally Posted by Sara504

I've done it once. I dont think I'd ever do it again. I couldnt handle the "baby momma drama"

Me too Sara. the "baby daddy drama" that is

MediaArtist · 07-10-2012, 12:34 PM

Whoever you are happy with.

If you are happy with a single mom, and she's a great woman who loves you, makes your life better, and you generally couldn't imagine life without her, then why not?

I've seen high school sweet hearts who were each other's first lovers, end up hating each other and bitterly splitting in their 30s. I've seen two single parents date, and become a "Brady Bunch" and be the happiest people I know.

Judge people as individuals, not because of a tag or category they fit into.

MisterSkiMask · 07-10-2012, 12:40 PM

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Originally Posted by CollinsE90

They're single mothers for a reason, typically.

Very true.

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Originally Posted by MediaArtist

Whoever you are happy with.

If you are happy with a single mom, and she's a great woman who loves you, makes your life better, and you generally couldn't imagine life without her, then why not?

I've seen high school sweet hearts who were each other's first lovers, end up hating each other and bitterly splitting in their 30s. I've seen two single parents date, and become a "Brady Bunch" and be the happiest people I know.

Judge people as individuals, not because of a tag or category they fit into.

Also true. I think it changes with age, time, and your own situation. In my 20s hell no.

If I was in my 30s (with a vasectomy) and I liked the kid, I would consider it. It would have to be a very unique and special person.

FwdFtl · 07-10-2012, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by MediaArtist

Whoever you are happy with.

If you are happy with a single mom, and she's a great woman who loves you, makes your life better, and you generally couldn't imagine life without her, then why not?

I've seen high school sweet hearts who were each other's first lovers, end up hating each other and bitterly splitting in their 30s. I've seen two single parents date, and become a "Brady Bunch" and be the happiest people I know.

Judge people as individuals, not because of a tag or category they fit into.

I think you're missing a big factor...the child. You mentioned, how great and happy the woman makes you, but are you also considering the child in this picture too?

It's a package deal, all or nothing. I'm sure there would be a woman that I can't imagine life without one day, but that same woman with a kid from a previous relationship is just plain difficult for me to comprehend. That's IMO.

EIDT: Also, the child needs to like you as a potential mother or father as well. So you have two people to please not one and vice versa

MediaArtist · 07-10-2012, 12:57 PM

I thought that was implied, but yes, the child is important.

It may be difficult for you personally to comprehend, but there are people who have no problem with a child in the picture. That's why you can't judge people by categorizing them, especially if you haven't been in that situation yourself.

RambleJ · 07-10-2012, 01:18 PM

Ive done it on numerous occassions and I would do it again. As long as there is no baby daddy drama im cool with it.

FwdFtl · 07-10-2012, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by MediaArtist

I thought that was implied, but yes, the child is important.

It may be difficult for you personally to comprehend, but there are people who have no problem with a child in the picture. That's why you can't judge people by categorizing them, especially if you haven't been in that situation yourself.

This is correct, I cannot judge. Never have and never will. I leave that to the man upstairs.

But, fair enough.

David1 · 07-10-2012, 01:23 PM

If she has a daughter that is over 18 you can have both! Yum yum.

FwdFtl · 07-10-2012, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by David1

If she has a daughter that is over 18 you can have both! Yum yum.

yea date your potential step daughter.

DieselDiner · 07-10-2012, 02:40 PM

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Originally Posted by FwdFtl

yea date your potential step daughter.

Woody Allen's motto.

Z3->WRX->335 · 07-10-2012, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by David1

If she has a daughter that is over 18 you can have both! Yum yum.

LOL...I've been facing this dilemma as well. Girl is 23, turning 24 this weekend. We've been hanging out a lot, I can tell she likes me, and her daughter loves me. So much so that she lays on me while watching TV, always wanting to play, etc. (daughter is 2 almost 3) I actually really like her kid but I'm only 25 so I feel young for a 3 year old daughter.

I feel bad for her daughter the dad is a complete douche and hasn't even been picking her up latley. My biggest concern is I haven't seen her naked yet and I'm wondering how everything's gonna look!

Not gonna date this girl, prob just set up a FTF situation and then in return for the poon, I will entertain the kid.

07-10-2012, 11:35 AM	#1
FwdFtl Cocaine Biceps Drives: E60 Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Cali Posts: 182 iTrader: (0)	Dating women with kid/s; deal breaker? I am opposed to it. Would you pursue a serious relationship with a women that has a kid or kids? before you answer, this woman is the hottest woman to you and has fit every requirement your simple brain could imagine? Deal breaker? Yes or no? Explain.
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07-10-2012, 11:37 AM	#2
Sara504 ///Miss E92 Drives: 2013 335is Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: California Posts: 17,214 iTrader: (6)	I wouldnt be here if my Dad didnt. __________________ 2013 335is-Current 2011 335i -Sold 4/132006 325i-Sold 7/11

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Patrick719 First Lieutenant Drives: 2008 Jet Black 335xi coupe Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Castle Rock, CO Posts: 305 iTrader: (2) Garage List 2008 e92 335xi [5.00] 2005 Yamaha R1 [5.00]	Just depends on where you are in life IMO. When I was younger and tried dating a girl with kids it just didn't work out. It wasn't really the life I wanted at that time. If you want to go out every weekend, take her (and only her) on little vacations and things of that nature, it's very difficult especially if her kids are young. Now that I'm in my 30s I am dating a girl with 2 kids. We've been together 2 years now and things are still great. I enjoy doing things as a family. __________________ 2008 335xi Coupe - Premium\|Sport\|CA\|iDrive\|COBB AP\|UUC Corsa exhaust\|AWE BOV’s\|BMS DCI\|Helix CDV\|19" VMR VB3’s\|Aero lip\|M3 spoiler\|ZHP knob\|///M pedals\|painted reflectors\|HPB 20w AEs

07-10-2012, 11:50 AM	#8
CollinsE90 Where my bitches Drives: Cadillac coupe deville Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: street corner checking profits Posts: 1,927 iTrader: (0)	They're single mothers for a reason, typically. __________________

07-10-2012, 11:54 AM	#10
kevinbahnz Lieutenant Drives: 2008 335xi sedan Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Ma-NC Posts: 457 iTrader: (1)	I have had in the past but wouldn't again. I am also a father with 2 kids with 2 different girls. I'm trying my best to make the 2nd one work so I wouldn't be in the situation again. __________________

07-10-2012, 11:40 AM	#3
MidwestGolfBum Knower of all Things Useless Drives: E92 335i Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: No Coast Posts: 217 iTrader: (0)	Have in the past, would again. Just remember, the kids are more important than you. If they like you, you are better than if just she likes you.

07-10-2012, 11:46 AM	#5
Simple3 Lieutenant Drives: e90 Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: USA Posts: 444 iTrader: (7)	Long before I met my wife I dated a girl with 2 kids from 2 different dudes (yea, I wrapped it up tight) during a dry spell I was having with the ladies. I had fun with her sure... When the baby daddy drama started happening. I looked for a way out without looking like a douche.. caught her in a lie and ended it. Funny thing was she said she was tied up but I saw her a few years later pushing around a kid in a stroller. Found out she got knocked up and had lied to me about being tied up. Thank goodness for rubbers... My conscience was clear..

07-10-2012, 11:54 AM	#9
Draven BMW traitor until M3 comes out Drives: C6 Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Merrimack, NH Posts: 112 iTrader: (0)	I tried. Doesn't work for me.

07-10-2012, 12:34 PM	#13
MediaArtist There is No Substitute Drives: Audi A6, 997 GT3 RS, E90 335i Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Mission Viejo, CA Posts: 677 iTrader: (0)	Whoever you are happy with. If you are happy with a single mom, and she's a great woman who loves you, makes your life better, and you generally couldn't imagine life without her, then why not? I've seen high school sweet hearts who were each other's first lovers, end up hating each other and bitterly splitting in their 30s. I've seen two single parents date, and become a "Brady Bunch" and be the happiest people I know. Judge people as individuals, not because of a tag or category they fit into. __________________ '13 Audi A6 '07 Porsche GT3 RS '08 BMW E90 335i

07-10-2012, 12:57 PM	#16
MediaArtist There is No Substitute Drives: Audi A6, 997 GT3 RS, E90 335i Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Mission Viejo, CA Posts: 677 iTrader: (0)	I thought that was implied, but yes, the child is important. It may be difficult for you personally to comprehend, but there are people who have no problem with a child in the picture. That's why you can't judge people by categorizing them, especially if you haven't been in that situation yourself. __________________ '13 Audi A6 '07 Porsche GT3 RS '08 BMW E90 335i

07-10-2012, 01:18 PM	#17
RambleJ Lieutenant Colonel Drives: F10 535i M-sport Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Back in teh so cal Posts: 1,928 iTrader: (2)	Ive done it on numerous occassions and I would do it again. As long as there is no baby daddy drama im cool with it.

07-10-2012, 01:23 PM	#19
David1 Colonel Drives: 09 E92 09 X5 Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: City With No Room For Ludicris Speed! Posts: 2,133 iTrader: (0)	If she has a daughter that is over 18 you can have both! Yum yum. __________________ 2009 335i CoupeLBM - Black Dakota/Glacier aluminum-6spd\|Nav\|M-Sport\|Premium\|Logic7\|Heated Seats\|CA\|BMW Performance Suspension & M3 Control Arms\|M3 lip spoiler 2009 X5 3.0-AW-Black Dakota/Bamboo\|Premium\|Tech\|Cold Weather\|Ipod Rear Climate\| 07 335 coupe - Sold 07 X3 - Sold

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