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adobeee · 09-10-2012, 11:43 AM

Guys, I have an update but need your honest advice...

She texted me the same day around 9pm: "heard your voicemail just now, sryy! is it too late to go to the movie now? wt shall we do?

"

Shortly after I picked her up, we went to watch a movie at the theater. After we finished, she agreed to watch another movie at my place. We finished the movie around 3am and started making out since we were cuddling the whole movie, but as I moved down on her, she said no..and it was too quick. I'm a little bit confused - she is showing signs of interest and even stayed the night although we didn't do anything, but maybe I am the one rushing things too quickly..

This morning, she woke up and was about to walk back home while I was still sleeping, but I dropped her off instead because I didn't want her to walk 1.5 miles. At her door, I just told her..hey i hope last night was okay and i didnt mean to give you the wrong impression from last night. ill talk to you again soon. she agreed.

What should I do now? Is she losing interest? When's the next best time to talk to her and what is my next best action?

shah269 · 09-10-2012, 11:55 AM

How about you stop thinking...you think way too much!
Just go with the flow!

sjk9671 · 09-10-2012, 12:12 PM

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Originally Posted by shah269

How about you stop thinking...you think way too much!
Just go with the flow!

Agreed.

Not every girl is going to give it up on the 2nd date. The fact that she stayed the night after you guys "cooled it down" a little proves she wasn’t scared away.

See each other a few more times, maybe let her make a move beyond making out. Just feel out the situation.

It was only your 2nd time seeing her.

adobeee · 09-10-2012, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by sjk9671

Agreed.

Not every girl is going to give it up on the 2nd date. The fact that she stayed the night after you guys "cooled it down" a little proves she wasn’t scared away.

See each other a few more times, maybe let her make a move beyond making out. Just feel out the situation.

It was only your 2nd time seeing her.

Understood. That's a great point you make - she wouldn't have stayed over for nothing.

I'll just shoot her a text saying have a great day at work and that I would love to see your new car sometime (she just got a new car today).

135er · 09-10-2012, 01:05 PM

You are stressing out and over analysing. I say take some time off and pull back a bit.

Joekerr · 09-10-2012, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by 135er

You are stressing out and over analysing. I say take some time off and pull back a bit.

That's what she said.

I'd love to give some bad advice, but OP sounds genuinely concerned. Why I'm still not sure.

She stayed, she's still interested, and I presume you acted like a gentlemen after acting like a dog? I wouldn't continue to say "Sorry, sorry, sorry" - you've said it a few times right, that's it, she knows. Any more, and it might come off weird as though you're sorry you showed any interest and it won't happen again (it should happen again, just not the way you did it - just take it slow, but go in for the kiss / hug...just show her you are a gentleman). Let her adjust - you guys just basically met, if she went with what you were going for, would you really like her long term? Would she really be the girl you'd want to bring home? I bet not - I wouldn't if I were in your situation.

So kudos to her, I respect that about her, and you gotta calm down. Be yourself (unless your a horny teenager, then try to be someone a little more mature) so she gets to know you, and take it slow if you really like this girl.

Bimmer Nerd · 09-10-2012, 03:59 PM

OP ur overthinking shit.

Stop putting emphasis on the fact that she rejected you when u tried to fuck/finger/destroy her vagina on a 2nd date. A lot of women will do, they simply haven't build up enough trust in you yet to do such things (unless you're really good at talking or they're a slut). Which neither of them seem to be the case right now.

Just text her saying "so when am i getting the ride in the new beast?

" even if its a prius.

carve · 09-10-2012, 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by adobeee

At her door, I just told her..hey i hope last night was okay and i didnt mean to give you the wrong impression from last night.

What should I do now? Is she losing interest? When's the next best time to talk to her?

DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR GOING AFTER WHAT YOU WANT. You're a man and it's completely natural- not something to apologize for. The only thing to apologize for is putting VERY intense pressure on her. And too fast doesn't mean "no", it means "not yet".

Next time she says something like "too fast", try something like this. Act completely unstarteled and don't skip a beat. Slowly put your hand on her somewhere "OK". Then put her hand on yours and tell her something like "You're in complete control of this situation. I'm going to let things flow naturally, but if you don't like where my hand is, just brush it away or put it somewhere you do want to be touched" Then, over the course of 15 minutes escalate again VERY gradually, giving her plenty of chances to de-escalate if she wants. She probably won't, but if she does more than a couple of times, just be OK with it- not disappointed OR apologetic.

shazzy04 · 09-11-2012, 12:58 AM

/forever alone.

Jk but I agree with those who are saying its a good sign she didn't run off after saying no.

blender · 09-11-2012, 01:01 AM

see page 11,206

fitchesbass · 09-11-2012, 07:28 PM

There a million reasons why should could have reject your suggestion of moving things along physically. It could have been 'her time of the month' among a whole other number of reasons...

Don't over apologize. And stop overthinking it. you have to be more secure with yourself.

ibarry92 · 09-12-2012, 07:40 PM

OP...she could be from Bangkok...

Or, she just wants to keep her virginity until after marriage? I don't know, it could be a possibility.

kevinbahnz · 09-12-2012, 09:27 PM

I hope its not the virgin girl that huangyichow banged on the second date..

grimlock · 09-13-2012, 12:43 AM

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Originally Posted by kevinbahnz

I hope its not the virgin girl that huangyichow banged on the second date..

but that one was imaginary, this one is real ... right? !!

txz4 · 09-13-2012, 11:42 AM

Allow me to help.

1) Google "large penis"
2) send pic of largest penis you can find in text to her
3) along with pic, say your coming by with a roll of hefty bags
4) profit.

TeRRoRiFiC35 · 09-13-2012, 12:48 PM

Am I the only one who read she wanted to make plans with him to go to NYC for x-mas? That is not normal first date stuff.....

shah269 · 09-13-2012, 12:52 PM

I'm going to pass on info to you that was passed on to me by my grandfather.

Do you know why god gave women tits? So you won't pay too much attention to what is coming out of their mouths.

Women blab and blab and blab....doesn't mean any actual info is being provided.

Orange fever · 09-13-2012, 05:35 PM

If you don't hit it by the 3rd date... Your not a MAN.

Orange fever · 09-13-2012, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by TeRRoRiFiC35

Am I the only one who read she wanted to make plans with him to go to NYC for x-mas? That is not normal first date stuff.....

fitchesbass · 09-13-2012, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by TeRRoRiFiC35

Am I the only one who read she wanted to make plans with him to go to NYC for x-mas? That is not normal first date stuff.....

Stage 5 Clinger?

Aggression · 09-13-2012, 07:36 PM

persian54 · 09-13-2012, 10:50 PM

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Originally Posted by adobeee

Thanks!

This is great advice. The messaging app is called Wechat or "weixin" in Chinese. It is commonly used by Asians. So if you're into Asians..go for it!

hahahahaha I have weixin/QQ

Haven't used it in a while though.

this is too funny lol

Quote:

Originally Posted by TeRRoRiFiC35

Am I the only one who read she wanted to make plans with him to go to NYC for x-mas? That is not normal first date stuff.....

I was going to comment on that too.......

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Originally Posted by Orange fever

If you don't hit it by the 3rd date... You're not a MAN.

personally for me, the girls who I have waited longer than 3 dates to go all the way ... lasted a LOT longer (years vs months).

For me, if the girls gives it up in the first couple dates... then that's all she's worth to me.
If I see a future and like her, I personally like to wait. I don't hold hands or even give a peck until the 2nd or 3rd date

OP: the fact that she stayed over means she likes you...but at the same time... this girl sounds like one that is great for fun dates and once you get closer, to have some great sex (Chinese girls tend to be crazier than other Asians)
But I wouldn't see much of a future... if she's planning a NYC trip... that's scary..........and she sleeps over on a second date..... not good in my book

It's obvious she's into you, so just go with the flow and have fun.

I'm curious..how old are you two?

09-11-2012, 12:58 AM	#31
shazzy04 Lieutenant Colonel Drives: 07 E90 6Spd Bsm Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: New Jersey Posts: 1,730 iTrader: (5)	/forever alone. Jk but I agree with those who are saying its a good sign she didn't run off after saying no. __________________ 07 E90 328i\| Eurocharged \| Black Kidney Grille \| GP Thunder 8.5k Halogens \| aFe Dry Intake \| C/F Splitters \| C/F Emblems \| Muffler Delete \| 12mm Spacers \| Blacklines \| Rpi Air Scoops \| Rho Plate \|

09-11-2012, 01:01 AM	#32
blender Custom User Title Drives: black Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: n Posts: 663 iTrader: (0)	Here you go see page 11,206 Last edited by blender; 09-11-2012 at 07:37 PM.

09-11-2012, 07:28 PM	#33
fitchesbass Captain Drives: Z4M Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 829 iTrader: (1)	There a million reasons why should could have reject your suggestion of moving things along physically. It could have been 'her time of the month' among a whole other number of reasons... Don't over apologize. And stop overthinking it. you have to be more secure with yourself. __________________

09-12-2012, 09:27 PM	#35
kevinbahnz Lieutenant Drives: 2008 335xi sedan Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Ma-NC Posts: 457 iTrader: (1)	I hope its not the virgin girl that huangyichow banged on the second date.. __________________

09-13-2012, 05:35 PM	#40
Orange fever Major Drives: M3E90 and M3E46 Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: in the hood!!! Posts: 1,244 iTrader: (3)	If you don't hit it by the 3rd date... Your not a MAN. __________________ X5M E70 Black Sapphire Metallic/Classic mini"71 w/vtec motor

09-10-2012, 11:43 AM	#23
adobeee Lieutenant Drives: slow Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 548 iTrader: (0)	Guys, I have an update but need your honest advice... She texted me the same day around 9pm: "heard your voicemail just now, sryy! is it too late to go to the movie now? wt shall we do? " Shortly after I picked her up, we went to watch a movie at the theater. After we finished, she agreed to watch another movie at my place. We finished the movie around 3am and started making out since we were cuddling the whole movie, but as I moved down on her, she said no..and it was too quick. I'm a little bit confused - she is showing signs of interest and even stayed the night although we didn't do anything, but maybe I am the one rushing things too quickly.. This morning, she woke up and was about to walk back home while I was still sleeping, but I dropped her off instead because I didn't want her to walk 1.5 miles. At her door, I just told her..hey i hope last night was okay and i didnt mean to give you the wrong impression from last night. ill talk to you again soon. she agreed. What should I do now? Is she losing interest? When's the next best time to talk to her and what is my next best action?

09-10-2012, 11:55 AM	#24
shah269 Lieutenant Drives: 2009 Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: NJ Posts: 578 iTrader: (0)	How about you stop thinking...you think way too much! Just go with the flow!

09-10-2012, 01:05 PM	#27
135er Private First Class Drives: 135i Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: montreal Posts: 117 iTrader: (0)	You are stressing out and over analysing. I say take some time off and pull back a bit.

09-10-2012, 03:59 PM	#29
Bimmer Nerd I \| L Photography Drives: E46 M3 Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Los angeles, ~818~ Posts: 7,422 iTrader: (11)	OP ur overthinking shit. Stop putting emphasis on the fact that she rejected you when u tried to fuck/finger/destroy her vagina on a 2nd date. A lot of women will do, they simply haven't build up enough trust in you yet to do such things (unless you're really good at talking or they're a slut). Which neither of them seem to be the case right now. Just text her saying "so when am i getting the ride in the new beast? " even if its a prius.

09-12-2012, 07:40 PM	#34
ibarry92 Second Lieutenant Drives: 2010 BMW 328xi Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: North America Posts: 228 iTrader: (0)	OP...she could be from Bangkok... Or, she just wants to keep her virginity until after marriage? I don't know, it could be a possibility.

09-13-2012, 11:42 AM	#37
txz4 Major Drives: 2006 M coupe Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: san antonio, texas Posts: 1,086 iTrader: (3)	Allow me to help. 1) Google "large penis" 2) send pic of largest penis you can find in text to her 3) along with pic, say your coming by with a roll of hefty bags 4) profit.

09-13-2012, 12:48 PM	#38
TeRRoRiFiC35 Private First Class Drives: Car Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: NJ Posts: 108 iTrader: (0)	Am I the only one who read she wanted to make plans with him to go to NYC for x-mas? That is not normal first date stuff.....

09-13-2012, 12:52 PM	#39
shah269 Lieutenant Drives: 2009 Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: NJ Posts: 578 iTrader: (0)	I'm going to pass on info to you that was passed on to me by my grandfather. Do you know why god gave women tits? So you won't pay too much attention to what is coming out of their mouths. Women blab and blab and blab....doesn't mean any actual info is being provided.

09-13-2012, 07:36 PM	#43
Aggression Private First Class Drives: 335i E92/CTS Coupe Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Jacksonville Posts: 121 iTrader: (0)

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