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      12-07-2012, 09:10 PM   #45
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i want to sit here and say "i talk a big game but i don't think i'd do it", but something tells me that if something major happened, i'd go into a rage that would potentially result in death or dismemberment.

haven't been put in that situation yet, but there are folks that lose their minds when they see/hear about what someone did to their family member.....
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Being single is great for me because I get to do whatever I want when I want OR more importantly not have to do what I don't want ever!

The downside is that I usually do what I want all alone.

If I could get a little of both worlds and regular nookie it'd be worth it...too many times I hear my married friends tell me they're getting nothing. FORGET IT.

That said recently I have been learning that having someone who loves you and supports you no matter what happens is highly underrated...
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i had a moment of revelation yesterday: most hot girls are crack whores too

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That said recently I have been learning that having someone who loves you and supports you no matter what happens is highly underrated...
Wait until something happens in your life and nobody is there to support you. Friends won't support you like you might think they would, and not nearly as well as a good woman in your life will.
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alright this may be weird but here's my story lol:

im 22 now, been in a relationship pretty much my entire life... (started dating when i was late 15yrs old). Had 2 long term relationships, one 3 years and the other 2.5years. Some in the middle just cuz im a relationship guy. I currently have a girlfriend now we've been dating for 2 months now.

soooo here are the pros:
-if your an emotional guy its good to have someone to care for/care for you
-love
-share experiences with
-I haven't gone without sex for more than 3 weeks since i was 15.
-more presents on Christmas lol

cons: -If you find the right girl there shouldn't be to many cons however i haven't so
-more stress
-less money... i sometimes spend over 500$ a month on restaurants fml.
-constantly having to please someone
-clubs are less fun to go to with a gf.. "never bring sand to a beach"
i can write a novel about the cons.. but at the end of the day if you find someone you really like there aren't many cons. (like the girl im seeing now)
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Sexting with one person & one person only gets old quick. I can't believe I was stuck in relationships for years, this past year and a half I've never seen so much T & A it's great!
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marriage is for people who understand the dynamics behind being married.

it takes a certain maturity and level of committment to accept the fact that you are going into a communion with someone else.

you will have to be there for eachother, grow together, raise children together all while trying not to be a burden to society/family/friends.....

marriage is not easy - it's only as good as the understanding of roles in which each person is responsible for....
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marriage is for people who understand the dynamics behind being married.

it takes a certain maturity and level of committment to accept the fact that you are going into a communion with someone else.

you will have to be there for eachother, grow together, raise children together all while trying not to be a burden to society/family/friends.....

marriage is not easy - it's only as good as the understanding of roles in which each person is responsible for....

Hear hear! A+ I'm married and can see you get it!
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Me too.. but they all want to get married, and I'm not ready, and not willing to be a dick, so I don't get any.
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Me too.. but they all want to get married, and I'm not ready, and not willing to be a dick, so I don't get any.
Problem is some other guy is willing to be and will get what you won't. Don't be a disrespectful douche, but get it in.

I hear what you're saying 100% Litos. For me I don't think it's about commitment fears, maturity, more there are things I still want to do in life I won't be able to do while married. Plus I just turned 25 too young for the "M" word right now.
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should make a thread, pros and cons for long distance relationships..

In NC now and my gf is in NYC and it blows
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should make a thread, pros and cons for long distance relationships..

In NC now and my gf is in NYC and it blows
Do you ever hear of long distance relationships being fun? Everybody hates them.
I say that, yet I may be getting myself into one... I have yet to experience the pain
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Sexting with one person & one person only gets old quick. I can't believe I was stuck in relationships for years, this past year and a half I've never seen so much T & A it's great!
If this is the sort of thing you're looking for in relationships, then you're not ready to get married. Nothing wrong with that, but marriage just isn't for you right now.

When you get older, your priorities might change, and you might look for something more from your partner than good sexting/sex/T&A.

Although if you wait too long, you run the risk of being the creepy 37 year-old at the club trying to hook up with the 22 year-old college seniors, which is kind of pathetic and gross
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should make a thread, pros and cons for long distance relationships..

In NC now and my gf is in NYC and it blows
Was in a long distance relationship with my (now) wife twice while we were dating. Both periods lasted over a year. It was not fun, although it really made it evident that we were committed to each other, as breaking up / seeing other people was never even a thought.
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Do you ever hear of long distance relationships being fun? Everybody hates them.
I say that, yet I may be getting myself into one... I have yet to experience the pain
Just saying, there are way more cons to long distance lol
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Just saying, there are way more cons to long distance lol
Having done this twice (with the same person), IMHO, if you're weighing pros vs cons, then you're not going to make it. You need to be really committed to the other person to handle any kind of long distance relationship and come out of the experience still together.
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Having done this twice (with the same person), IMHO, if you're weighing pros vs cons, then you're not going to make it. You need to be really committed to the other person to handle any kind of long distance relationship and come out of the experience still together.
I agree. I am committed and not weighing the pros and cons. What makes it difficult is the uncertainty in both of our futures, we may never be living in the same state for a long time, possibly ever, in which case it won't work out.
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I agree. I am committed and not weighing the pros and cons. What makes it difficult is the uncertainty in both of our futures, we may never be living in the same state for a long time, possibly ever, in which case it won't work out.
If you are committed to each other, at some point, you have to decide that enough is enough and that you're going to live near each other (if not just move in together). Someone might have to compromise some of their career/school/etc. priorities to make this happen.
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If this is the sort of thing you're looking for in relationships, then you're not ready to get married. Nothing wrong with that, but marriage just isn't for you right now.

When you get older, your priorities might change, and you might look for something more from your partner than good sexting/sex/T&A.

Although if you wait too long, you run the risk of being the creepy 37 year-old at the club trying to hook up with the 22 year-old college seniors, which is kind of pathetic and gross
I agree completely with you, but I already know that about myself fortunately. I'm in the midst of trying to change my career and even open up my own business on the side if everything pans out right, so time to invest into a woman is lower on my priority list then bettering myself at the moment.

I've seen that 35+ year old out at the club wayyy too many times. Especially here in NY it's extremely prevalent, not where I want to be in 10 years!
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Problem is some other guy is willing to be and will get what you won't. Don't be a disrespectful douche, but get it in.

I hear what you're saying 100% Litos. For me I don't think it's about commitment fears, maturity, more there are things I still want to do in life I won't be able to do while married. Plus I just turned 25 too young for the "M" word right now.
Douche too old, good thing creeping as an older guy (30's) is more acceptable over here.
Probably just need to get it out of the system.. then volunteer yourself for incarcerating when you want/got no more game.
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