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      02-09-2013, 10:28 AM   #67
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So in short you are missing friendship, companionship, which would complete your happiness circle.

Two words: Love Life.

How you ask ?

STEP OUT OF YOUR DAILY ROUTINE ! make the effort to do what you dont usually do right now, go help the needy, go help those unfortunate (and God knows there are a lot of people in hardship), give your free time to others, be an inspiration to them, give them hope, cheer people up, there is no reasons (as you have point it out to yourself already) for you to be depressed, you have everything that other people dont have...

Love, Friendship, and Happiness WILL come to you once you have given enough back to your community (i am not talking about money, i am referring to giving your honest time, your honest effort, your feelings and knowledge from your head and heart...)

Learn about buddhism, learn about christianity, learn about other religious faith...
... or join a star-gazing group

Dont do anything expecting for love or friendship .... that's selfish...(even tho that's what you want, i know it's contradicting)
but save yourself the trouble, expectations will set you back into depression...
you dont want to waste your time being how you currently are again...

if what you have been doing is wrong or is making you not happy: Change !

Change for the better bud !

You will be fine
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      02-09-2013, 11:40 AM   #68
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You need to get happy with yourself, the rest will follow naturally.

If you're not happy with yourself, you don't come off as attractive to others.

Join some groups, get new hobbies, do things that make YOU happy. Once you're happy, people will be attracted to you and things will happen for you.

You might look into anti-depressents, or maybe some counciling if you're seriously depressed.
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      02-09-2013, 04:49 PM   #69
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You might look into anti-depressents, or maybe some counciling if you're seriously depressed.
This reminds me of the pilot episode of the Sopranos

"Let me tell ya something. Nowadays, everybody's gotta go to shrinks, and counselors, and go on "Sally Jessy Raphael" and talk about their problems. What happened to Gary Cooper? The strong, silent type. That was an American. He wasn't in touch with his feelings. He just did what he had to do. See, what they didn't know was once they got Gary Cooper in touch with his feelings that they wouldn't be able to shut him up! And then it's dysfunction this, and dysfunction that, and dysfunction ma fangul!"

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      02-10-2013, 12:12 AM   #70
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You need to get happy with yourself, the rest will follow naturally.

If you're not happy with yourself, you don't come off as attractive to others.

Join some groups, get new hobbies, do things that make YOU happy. Once you're happy, people will be attracted to you and things will happen for you.

You might look into anti-depressents, or maybe some counciling if you're seriously depressed.
Thx. I haven't lost control of myself to take anti-depressants.

Things are improving now.
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      02-10-2013, 04:37 AM   #71
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Buddy, you are still young, enjoy what you have because you worked hard for them. Other people might look happy to you, they are married, having kids, but they probably wish they are living your life.. I was in your situation at your age, but now I think those were nonsense feelings. You rather go out and help those who are less fortunate than youself, it would make you happy, maybe you'd make more friends that way..
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      02-10-2013, 01:32 PM   #72
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Depression is something nobody should have. I know what you mean by feeling lonely, and FUCK that, it's the worst.

Here are some sites that hopefully can help you.

www.meetup.com
www.livingsocial.com

Other than that find a hobby/something you love to do, or just go out and talk to random people, try to make friends that way.

www.reddit.com/r/socialskills

Good luck!
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+1!
Hope you feel better...it's worse in the winter...maybe it's the lack of sun or something...but well it sucks.
For me, it's the gym. three times per week on the treadmill for 45min each shot...won't cure it but it will help. and if you get lucky the girl in front of you won't have a tank ass...so the view will be good.

I'm sorry did you say you were in your mid 30's as well?

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      02-11-2013, 12:23 AM   #74
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Look up "simplepickup" on YouTube. It's the name of a channel. Go watch their videos. Learn something. Execute. Enjoy life. They changed my life. Now let them change yours.
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      02-11-2013, 12:33 AM   #75
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Get the fuck out of the house. Lots of opportunities out there. Find something you like and gravitate towards a group

http://www.meetup.com/find/?offset=0...2&sort=default
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      02-11-2013, 10:06 AM   #77
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Do any of you listen to the radio lab pod casts?
There was a very interesting one last week about lying.
And they discussed that those who are depressed or feeling down tend to be very honest and very aware of their surroundings.
While those who were happy go lucky tended to "lie" more.

Puts a new view on the glass is half empty vs half full. Maybe it's an issue of perspective?
Maybe and this will sound silly and i feel bad for saying it....lie to yourself a little?
Maybe wake up and say...it's going to be a good day?

I hope this helps. And I hope you feel better soon.
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      02-11-2013, 12:42 PM   #79
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Any skills at coaching? Nothing better than seeing a kid's face light up when you teach him/her a skill they never thought they could master. Then they teach you back that if a kid can do it, you can reach beyond your self-limiting view and do something you never thought you could.

Plus, MILFs!!!!!
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Any skills at coaching? Nothing better than seeing a kid's face light up when you teach him/her a skill they never thought they could master. Then they teach you back that if a kid can do it, you can reach beyond your self-limiting view and do something you never thought you could.

Plus, MILFs!!!!!
This, this a thousand times! I coach soccer and help kids with golf. The soccer and golf moms add to the fun.
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Dude, you need Jesus...He gives a peace that surpasses all understanding!!!!!!!!!!!
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Cut-short on alcohol. Quit smoking on past New Years Eve.

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Dude, you got a new car.. how can you be depressed? Don't get in an accident or you'll go over the edge..
+ give Shah a call
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you should watch the romantic movie, side effects. it will cheer you up.
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Hey guys,

At this point of my life I have everything but friends, girl, and happiness. I am 28yo and have a well paying job,a bmw, a house of my own and even an athletic body(go running). Most of my friends are married now, the new friends are living little far away and due to some rumor that was spreading around, they are trying to avoid me. I dated a girl last year but felt like we didn't have any connection. I am not sure if I should just date or look for that special someone to spend the rest of life. I am ready to settle down, but am looking for someone from similar ethnic background so we can form a deep connection.

Coming back to the point, I don't speak to a lot of people during daily life cuz my firm is very small & I m pretty much my own most of the times. Don't have any meeting but I occasionally talk to a colleague sitting next to me. It's because he is old and very experienced, I can't talk like buddies. Also I am the youngest in the company. I am the type of guy who would never give-up & always looking for creative ways. But right now everything seems blocked.

So here's the gist, I am depressed about nothing happening in my life. I live near NYC, and I thought I was done socializing but may be I should start again. Feel I m too old to hang with drink teen kids.


Anybody went thru same feelings? Any suggestions what I should do?
You are a kid. Go out and have fun. I wish I was in my 20s again. Thats so young. Find a hobby and pursue it. Whether it be buying/collecting exotic firearms, baseball cards, saving for travel, boarding etc...
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