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      08-26-2010, 01:58 AM   #23
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i've fathered millions of babies in my lifetime. none of them survived.
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Congratulations.

I offer three suggestions.

1. Be the kind of person that you want your children to be. For example, since this is a car forum, you can not drive like a mindless idiot for 16 years and then expect your teenage driver to be something that you are not. Of course this applies to all aspects of life.

2. Never act in anger. Walk away, calm down and think.

3. Children understand the concept of "choice" from a very, very early age. Calmly explain the choices that face them, make them realistic and then follow through. You see parents failing at this all of the time, from empty threats made to screaming kids in a store to extreme, but still empty, threats made during the teenage years.

And I will also offer this. I have never laid a hand on my children. They are now 19 and 22, with good friends, excellent academic records and most importantly they are caring and compassionate people. The American practice of beating children is barbaric.
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      08-26-2010, 09:37 AM   #26
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Make sure ya teach your kid the value of money too. Again, something people I know aren't doing or have not done. Most of my friends (18-21) are in credit card debt because their parents had a "I'm not going to teach my kid anything about money." Debt comes cheap. Getting out of it, doesn't.
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In all seriousness though, just spend time with the kids, teach them as much as you can, and love them for who they are.
Will do oh about the nanny, would be nice, but I don't need that temptation

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If you have a boy, you have one penis to worry about. (Where he puts it and how much trouble it will cause.)
If you have a girl, you have to worry about ALL of them!
So true! I'm stealing this.

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i've fathered millions of babies in my lifetime. none of them survived.
Nice! if tissues can get pregnant, you'd be in trouble.

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Congratulations.

I offer three suggestions.

1. Be the kind of person that you want your children to be. For example, since this is a car forum, you can not drive like a mindless idiot for 16 years and then expect your teenage driver to be something that you are not. Of course this applies to all aspects of life.

2. Never act in anger. Walk away, calm down and think.

3. Children understand the concept of "choice" from a very, very early age. Calmly explain the choices that face them, make them realistic and then follow through. You see parents failing at this all of the time, from empty threats made to screaming kids in a store to extreme, but still empty, threats made during the teenage years.

And I will also offer this. I have never laid a hand on my children. They are now 19 and 22, with good friends, excellent academic records and most importantly they are caring and compassionate people. The American practice of beating children is barbaric.
1) Great advise, thanks
2) This I have to prepare for
3) I know what you mean, my niece and nephew are brats because of the no follow up.
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      08-26-2010, 09:45 AM   #27
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Enjoy the milestones as they happen. Your child will laugh for the first time only once, will roll over for the first time only once, will sit up for the first time only once, and on and on. Enjoy these little moments.
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      08-26-2010, 10:11 AM   #28
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Congrat man.

a little about myself. I was 19 and she was 17, high school sweetheart. we dated for 2 years and she got pregnant by accident. I decided to marry her and had our first son at 21. it was a real challenge because I just completed college and she just completed high school. we were not ready financially, mentally, etc....So i ended up going to work, go home help her with the kid, she went to university after spending a year with the boy. we had to rely on my lowly income for 5 years and I had to pay her tution, etc. but we made it out in one piece and we just had our daughter last year at 27. Now i'm 28 and I have a 7 years old boy and 1 year old daughter. my wife had a bachelor degree in nursing and now we are working full force to pay the mortgage. I took the rough road, i know.

look back on my situation, i think you will be just fine since you both are at the right age and financially stable. remember to be very patience and love your kids as much as you can because they are the cutest when they are young and you will never get that back again once they pass that age. I still regret to this day that i didn't spend more time/pay more attention to my son when he was a little baby. now i'm more ready with my daughter and I just wish that I can turn back time so I can do thing that I'm doing with my daughter right now. love your wife unconditionally because she will go through lot of emotion after the baby especially the first one, she can be mad, crying, going a little crazy. just try encourage and be there for her. help your wife take care of the baby as much as you can especially the first 3 months where she is not fully recovered. so it is not really good for her to walk around too much or do heavy task. you will need to handle most of the tasks that she used to do before in the house.

enjoy and remember to take lot of pic/video as much as you can. this is the best moment and later in life you will love it when you look back at pic/video of your kids.

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I've got two daughters, but I'm too tired and/or lazy right now to lavish a lot of fatherly advice. I can share this bit of wisdom however....

If you have a boy, you have one penis to worry about. (Where he puts it and how much trouble it will cause.)
If you have a girl, you have to worry about ALL of them!
LOL. this is not true though, boy can be trouble as well. drug, jail, gang, make someone pregnant and pay for it dearly (like me).
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      08-26-2010, 10:43 AM   #30
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Congratz...I have a three year old boy and expecting a second boy in about two weeks.

Just some practical advice... don't under estimate the sleep depravation of the first few months. My wife and I were all worried about changing dirty dippers but once the baby got here, dippers were easy, we were blind sided by sleep depravation. It gets easier after about three months but you need to work out night shifts between you and your wife so you can get blocks of good sleep.
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      08-26-2010, 11:00 AM   #31
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P.S. Don't let your wife use getting pregnant as an excuse to be fat for the rest of her life...she can start exercising 6-8 weeks after having the baby.
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      08-26-2010, 05:17 PM   #32
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Congrats!

Sleep now, it won't come again for several months after

Be a part of your kid's life. Coach, go to school meetings, know what happens at school. Work is NOT more important than your kid.

If you have a boy, kiss him good night EVERY NIGHT. My father is a serious homophobe and won't even give my son a hug. But I kiss him, at least on the forehead, every night when we say our prayers before bed.

Oh, and work is NOT more important than you kid.

Do NOT get jealous of the attention your wife lavishes on your child. She still loves you, even when she blames you in the delivery room for getting her pregnant

Did I mention work is NOT more important than your kid?
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