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      02-25-2007, 09:34 AM   #1
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yet another dating question w/ a e90'er

Long story short...met girl.known her for a month now..she has same e90 (black/black) as me (which was a nice plus), she was on me like no tomorrow...we would talk for hours on the phone, and she'd always want to see me... She told me how she liked me a lot and always made hints about her being my girl and how great she thought i was and how she was lucky to have met me. This lasted for about 3 weeks. We went on a mini trip and once we got back, she was already talken about going somewhere. For vday I sent her a stuffed animal to her job and then few days later was her bday and I sent her flowers to her job. All of a sudden after her bday, she pulled back very hard! Barely spoke to me all this past week and whenever I asked her whats wrong she would say nothing. I asked her about us thinking she felt I wasn't interested. I told her I like her and think we have a great connection and she told me that she likes how things are going and she doesn't know where we'll end up. (this I would have believed 2 weeks ago but not now since she completly did a 180). I spoke to her last on Fri night where she said she'll call me back in 2minutes. Haven't heard from her since.

Very confused since she was so into me for abou t 3 weeks and couldn't get enough of me, and all of a sudden acts like I'm a nobody. I have not changed the way I treat her one bit. We got along very very well and now I can't stand the fact she did a 180 on me. I actually got to know her really well in 3 weeks and ended up liking her quite a bit. I know its only been a month but it sure as feels like a great deal more...any idea what could be going through her mind?
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      02-25-2007, 09:40 AM   #2
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Sounds like either she met another dude, or you pulled something to scare her off. Either way, stay away from the indecisive ones, IMO.
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Sounds like either she met another dude, or you pulled something to scare her off. Either way, stay away from the indecisive ones, IMO.
i was thinking the exact same thing. as hard as it might be i would just move on and find someone else.
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I def don't think I did anything to scare her b/c I didn't change my game at all since I met her. The only other thing I can think of is that there is another guy, which I find odd b/c she spent all her free time with me and we've been together every weekend since we met. I really wonder what her deal is...she obv won't tell me anything...I just can't believe she went from being all about me to being nothing about me!
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I def don't think I did anything to scare her b/c I didn't change my game at all since I met her. The only other thing I can think of is that there is another guy, which I find odd b/c she spent all her free time with me and we've been together every weekend since we met. I really wonder what her deal is...she obv won't tell me anything...I just can't believe she went from being all about me to being nothing about me!
theres no reason to try and figure her out you'll only drive yourself insane.
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Not certain about htis - but it is probably nothing to do with your car...
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maybe you're not good in bed.......or you're not putting out.....

the female species have need too.............
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Not certain about htis - but it is probably nothing to do with your car...
hahaha..yeah..pretty sure she isn't impressed by the car Although I'm impressed by hers...She has a 328, and it seems a lot more peppy than my 325!!
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maybe you're not good in bed.......or you're not putting out.....

the female species have need too.............

Well she seems pretty reserved when it comes to things like that, but the two times we had an over nighter, she got a tad bit too drunk (shes very very tiny and i guess has a low tolerance) and was so that kind of killed the mood! So if thats what killed it, it was strictly her fault..lol
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Well she seems pretty reserved when it comes to things like that, but the two times we had an over nighter, she got a tad bit too drunk (shes very very tiny and i guess has a low tolerance) and was so that kind of killed the mood! So if thats what killed it, it was strictly her fault..lol
two over nighter......and nothing happened!

dude....what's wrong with you!

I have nothing else to offer.........
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two over nighter......and nothing happened!

dude....what's wrong with you!

I have nothing else to offer.........
lol..she was wasted both nights
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lol..she was wasted both nights
having sex while drunk is the best feeling in the world....:rocks:
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why would you send her flowers to her work after 3 weeks of seeing each other ? bad move...

but I garantee you it's another guy
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the games that b*tches play nowadays sigh
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I think you should just say this to her "look I dont know what's going on here. Call me crazy but I think you're pulling away from me. I tried talking to you but it was no use. So right now, we only have two choices. Either you tell me what's going on and we could try to work it out or it's over."

Then after she tells you what's going on, dump her; especially if there's another dude. If she's already like this and it's only been 1 month, I dont think you wanna date her for a year or 2 and then end up in the same position. Better get out now while the water is still heating up.
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I think you should just say this to her "look I dont know what's going on here. Call me crazy but I think you're pulling away from me. I tried talking to you but it was no use. So right now, we only have two choices. Either you tell me what's going on and we could try to work it out or it's over."

Then after she tells you what's going on, dump her; especially if there's another dude. If she's already like this and it's only been 1 month, I dont think you wanna date her for a year or 2 and then end up in the same position. Better get out now while the water is still heating up.
yeah..i guess you guys have a good point....well i sent the flowers after 3 weeks of knowing her b/c we hung out so much and got pretty close so I felt kind of obligated to do a little something for vday / bday. Really don't know why I'm so strung after only a month..have dated others for longer and let it go in about 20 seconds! This one just seemed to have a lot of things i looked for in a girl and i really enjoyed talking to her and chillen with her. I think the fact she has the same car as me give her a extra point..its quite amuzing driving with one another and parking side by side. We def got some awkward looks..haha..I dunno..I'm 25 and don't have time to play these childish games...I was hoping she wasn't going to be one to play games
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She found someone else.
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Have you tried calling her since she said shed call you right back? Or are you just waiting on her to call you (bad idea) if you havn called her back mabey shes testing you to see if your really into her to see if you really want to put the effort into it or if you could just care less
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give her some space, go out with another girl, and she'll regain interest. They love the chase...you just gotta show em that you have other options out there, so they dont try to walk all over you. Dont call her, let her call you, and tell her you've been busy.
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Have you tried calling her since she said shed call you right back? Or are you just waiting on her to call you (bad idea) if you havn called her back mabey shes testing you to see if your really into her to see if you really want to put the effort into it or if you could just care less
Well I didn't call her yesterday..decided to give her space...She IM's me this morning but I was busy, however I felt that was the most inpersonal thing anyone can do! So for $hits and giggles, I gave her a call and she didn't pick up. That was about 5 hours ago...I guess I have my answer... still wish I would know why she did this!
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Well I didn't call her yesterday..decided to give her space...She IM's me this morning but I was busy, however I felt that was the most inpersonal thing anyone can do! So for $hits and giggles, I gave her a call and she didn't pick up. That was about 5 hours ago...I guess I have my answer... still wish I would know why she did this!
youl never know man girls are the most ununderstandable (its a word...look it up) things in the world you just have to go with the flow and just let it go bro..go out tonight and find you some new girls
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