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05-29-2013, 09:59 PM | #69 |
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Got married in 09. Purchased a 05 4runner loaded for my wife. When i was almost paid off last yr, purchased a 06 330i 6spd for my self. Both cars made Both happy.
First wanted to make the family happy. Then my self. Its a car in the end of the day. A life is more precious. There's always a compromise. Don't have to sacrifice everything |
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05-29-2013, 11:53 PM | #71 | |
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I've heard arguments as to how a van/SUV fits more stuff. Thats an excuse to be disorganized and dump "everything" into your vehicle |
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05-30-2013, 12:13 AM | #72 | |
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in my case I bought my wife an SUV... their was mention of a VAN at one point but once we saw how huge they are, we decided an SUV of equal or less size was able to go carry similar cargo (camping gear, our two huskies, and our two young kids) while giving us greater off road capability and comfort... |
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05-30-2013, 08:08 AM | #73 | |
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Your wife should also understand that there are thing that make you happy, and she should understand that she should not mess with it, even if -she- finds it unimportant or stupid (just like I may find stupid to have 20 pairs of shoes, when you have 2 feet anyway, but if that makes her happy, it's ok). For some of us, it is driving a car that is slightly more expensive than necessary. I would not lump myself in a minivan (or an SUV for that matter). If my wife insisted on making my life devoid of any fun by breaking my balls constantly, playing mind games etc, to make me do what I do not want to do, I would seriously reconsider if we should continue together. Not because I am an entitled teenager that do not understand life and cannot give up his toys (honestly I could, I had crap cars in the past, that was ok, if not fun). All the contrary, because I am getting older everyday, and there is nothing I would dread more than a confrontational relationship. It would not make me happy to be treated like a child that needs his mom to tell him what to do, that would irritate me more than is tolerable. This, having a wife that is bossy, is the real issue. If what you live doesn't make you happy, it is a waste of valuable life time. Now, my wife is perfect, she completely understands my odd needs, I understand hers. We are both reasonable persons, in general, and we manage our "shopping spree" so that they do not go overboard budget-wise. What we overspend on what makes us tick, we save on what we care less about. Always being reasonable would be blend and boring, wouldn't it ? And what would be even more would be to be castrated by mom-wife. |
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05-30-2013, 09:29 AM | #74 | |
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See fellas, this is what it's all about. Having a wife who respects who you are and won't manipulate you into doing something you don't want to do. So you can keep on handing out your touchy-feely, hug me and tell me you care about me bullshit. Save that shit for when you're lying on the couch crying to Dr. Phil. |
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See fellas, this is what it's all about. Having a wife who respects who you are and won't manipulate you into doing something you don't want to do. So you can keep on handing out your touchy-feely, hug me and tell me you care about me bullshit. Save that shit for when you're lying on the couch crying to Dr. Phil. |
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05-30-2013, 01:14 PM | #76 |
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My 2 cents...
I haven't posted anything on this forum for years, though I have been trolling the forum almost every other day
But THIS thread deserved something from me to Well, we are expecting our first kid and my wife has time and again objected to my idea of selling my e92 for a more practical family car. I was ready for the compromise but she knew and understood how much I liked driving that car without me ever showing her I will be disappointed if we sell it Instead she wants to sell her Mitsubishi Galant and get an Audi, Bimmer or Infiniti made SUV!!! She wants to join in on the fun! If you are wondering why we wouldn't use the Galant as our family car, it is because its too light to be safe and guzzles gas like a V8! hardly get close to 20 mpg. Still drives a little sporty though :-) As far as OP is concerned, he is still recovering from the loss of a dear car he loved , but is sensible & mature to handle this incident diplomatically cos' whether you owned a bimmer or not in the past, people cannot go around damaging cars in a parking lot and not have the courtesy to acknowledge the mistake. Well, I guess that's what is tough to find these days, HONEST and MORAL beings among us anymore Last edited by lowcash_dreamcar; 05-30-2013 at 02:02 PM.. |
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05-30-2013, 02:04 PM | #77 | |
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My answer to this question is "No you should not dump your mate." It is a foolish belief to think that in a 50+ year marriage that anyone will live up to the standard of "acting reasonably" the whole time. We are all F****ed up people. That is not going to change. Sometimes we go off the deep end and then come back to our senses. Sometime we are insensitive and ask our mate to sell a beloved car. These are not reasons for divorce (throwing and breaking things maybe)! These are areas for personal growth. Two points: If you consider yourself an honest person, then honor the vows you took. You said "for better and for worse." It is definitely for worse if your mate wants you to sell your car! If you cannot do this, then accept the fact that you are not an honest person and try to work on that. Second: If you believe a marriage is more than a social contract, then it is important to realize that the here and now is only the tip of the iceberg. I believe my life and marriage transcends time and space. I am not called to be married for a few years, or while it is convenient. I am called to be married for eternity. I believe in this life, my marriage will never be perfect, but somewhere in all of eternity it will be perfected and it will be one of the most amazing things ever. I stated several "ifs". I am not interested in debating whether or not marriage is a social contract or if there is an eternity. If you don't think there is, then we are not on the same page, but if you agree with my assumptions, then I encourage you to wrestle with these concepts and I am sure you will find TRUTH and in the areas that you fail, you will find grace. I am not a minister or a zealot. I am just a guy who has made a full circle and realized that there was great truth in the things that I was taught as a kid and then forgot and then relearned. |
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05-30-2013, 06:42 PM | #78 | |
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05-30-2013, 07:01 PM | #80 |
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Yup... WTF. Minivan... sad sad state of affairs. Dinged minivan, meh, why sweat it, the kids will do far worse in short order.
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05-30-2013, 07:12 PM | #82 | |
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05-30-2013, 07:22 PM | #83 | |
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Bikes, guns, cars, and cameras. Not a cheap hobby in the bunch, lots of raised eyebrows. I'm largely left to my own devices, but there is of course the budget reality, and that is discussed certainly. I ignore it, but it was discussed.
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05-30-2013, 08:08 PM | #84 | |
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can i get even more off topic for a minute? why is there such a horrid aversion to minivans? i guess i'm in the minority, but i WANT a minivan. my wife doesn't. that's why we have an SUV. IMHO, SUV's are pointless. yeah these days you can argue that crossovers are quicker and more agile than ever, but really, what's the point? i see them as a compromise. more expensive, less efficient, less practical than a minivan. heavier, slower and not as fun to drive as a car. who here genuinely enjoys driving an SUV? do you really think you're cool driving an SUV? i don't. every time i drive our MDX i just wanna get back in my other cars. if you must be hauling cargo or people or kids, why not do it in the most comfortable, efficient and practical way possible? that IMO, would be a minivan. there's no pretense with a minivan. there's NO cool factor. they are what they are. why do i want an minivan? mainly because i will rarely drive it but when i do, and i want to load up the kids and all their junk, what do i do? i push a button, and all the doors freakin slide open for me, and the kids get in themselves. if i don't want to watch them at ballet or soccer, i sit in the reclining seats in the back and watch a movie, or play video games (i've done that in the mdx, but its not comfy with two car seats already there). sure i have two car seats in my e90, but i really don't drive my kids in it. you know why? kids are MESSY. minivans are made to collect crap. that's why the new odyssey has a BUILT IN vacuum as an option. marriage is a compromise. i get to keep my two two seaters and the e90, she gets an SUV over a minivan. that way she gets to keep her too cool for a minivan suburban mom image, while struggling to get two kids packed up in her SUV. -c
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I find the SUV to be simple social posturing as well kinda, there's just something inherently wrong with average American perceptions of wealth, utility, image. Most of which can be summed up in a modern SpUte. Dunno why no one in the States likes the Estate/wagon. Better handling fuel economy, etc... Damn dude didn't see the MDX in your garage, not trying to be a dick, I'm just talented that way. As for Camera, simple gear, Canon 60D, Canon G10, a few prime lenses, a EF 15-85 and an EF 70-200 f2.8L IS. I shoot just about anything... pretty much, yeah anything from nudes to landscapes to junk in the mud, it's a hobby.
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05-30-2013, 08:42 PM | #86 |
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I too came to that conclusion after looking at many 3rd row SUVs (including MDX) because my wife was so resistant to driving a minivan. We wanted something that actually had USABLE third row seats for adults while not sacrificing cargo space. No SUV could come close in this aspect, all have very tiny 3rd rows that aren't very convenient to get in and no cargo room when 3rd row seats are up. I pretty much gave up on looking cool and just said i'm going to be comfy and relaxed when i'm driving the minivan - the leather captains chairs are really nice on long trips. As with bikes, no one car does everything well - better to have several knives for different purposes-that way everyone's happy.
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05-30-2013, 09:44 PM | #87 |
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While my wife couldn't actually make me get rid of a vehicle (you know, since I'm the one who drives it....... and makes the money), I did have a similar situation that worked in my favor. I had a quad cab Ram 4x4 with the Hemi V89 that got about 13 mpg. I drive about 20k miles a year, so the fuel cost was pretty high. She complained about it all the time until I finally said "Unless you're ok with me getting another BMW, I'm not getting rid of the truck." She called my bluff and now I have a 3-Series again and am averaging 26 mpg. That's a win-win-win.
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05-31-2013, 12:55 AM | #88 | |
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My wife wanted a new MDX . I said no problem. A few months later, it was easy for me to get the new car I wanted. Now my wife is tired of the MDX and wants something else. No problem! Soon it will be time for stage 3 on my TTRS and I will get little to no grief on the $15K that will probably cost. |
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