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      11-18-2013, 03:34 PM   #111
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Keep away from Chinese women that have a mother or father around which controls their lives If her parents have passed away already then you will have half the headache but if her parents are around whether she be Chinese or Thai then you could be in for a big headache because when you marry her you just do not marry her but her family too and it is not just her that you have to take care of but her family as well. This slowly starts to kick in as the relationship progresses.

Once in a while you may get lucky and find a lady who is quite distant from her parents but if she is close and her mother is money hungry then you are in for some trouble. 20 years in Taiwan as an expat has shed quite a bit of light on these issues that are usually kept in the dark

Man!!!! I wish you had told me this 2 years ago!!!!

Anyway, I appreciate your input. What you said is exactly what I experienced.
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      12-08-2013, 07:25 PM   #112
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saw this on an advertisement for white guys wanting asian females

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Here Are Seven Things Every Man Should Know Before Dating or Marrying a Chinese Woman.......

1. When dating Chinese women they rarely show their true character until after a great deal of time, sometimes not even until after marriage! This is due to a culture where the peer pressure is very high. Working out her true character before-hand is therefore a must.

2. When Chinese women are attracted to a man they will do things indirectly (much more so than a western female) to show their attraction, but without knowing the cues and signs it may pass you by. One example is if she advises you to take care of your health, or when the weather is changing to wear more clothes. This is not simply a throw-away statement on her part, as it is in western culture: she is trying to show her feelings are deeper than just simply friendship.

3. A Chinese brides expectation of marriage is based on her own culture and not necessarily yours. Don't assume that she knows what marriage is like in your country or what will be expected of her just because you've heard that Chinese girls are 'traditional'. In actual fact, the more traditional they are considered in Chinese culture, the less likely they will be able to adapt to you or your country. (note: Just because they say they are traditional, it doesn't necessarily mean they are by the way)



4. Chinese women are seldom submissive after you really get to know them. The submissive nature you may see in the beginning months (or sometimes even years) is simply a cultural affectation that may gradually disappear and be replaced by her true character, which can be anything from generous, loving and kind, to selfish, bossy and materialistic. Find out what it truly is beforehand.


5. When dating Chinese girls the etiquette is frequently over-emphasized by them where non-Chinese males are concerned, and many suddenly become 'ultra-traditional', whereas with a Chinese male before, they may not have been. Breaking down this facade is therefore 'a must', as it can cause untold complications otherwise. Until that time you should follow the accepted Chinese dating etiquette.


6. To attract or marry a Chinese woman you must demonstrate 'stability', among other things. If you have a history of short term relationships it's almost certainly best not to mention it. Even if they were when you were eighteen years old; she will simply assume you are not a good bet, and dependent on age, will be very unlikely to consider a relationship with you, no matter short-term or long-term. The majority of Chinese males I know keep their relationship history secret, and with good reason too!

7. Not all Chinese brides consider love to be an important factor in their marriage choice. Culturally in China, love and marriage have only recently become linked, and it is still far from being the norm in China. If you ask a Chinese woman you are dating or considering marriage to, if she loves you, she will almost always say "yes". This does not however necessarily mean she is thinking of the same kind of love you are thinking of. Chinese people frequently think of the word 'love' as almost a verb, as in if they act loving towards you and do loving things, it is sometimes equal in their minds to love. Make sure you are both on the same wavelength first if that is important to you, and learn how to find the right one....
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Wow! Al lot of good stuff....Very true...

Thanks
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      12-09-2013, 03:24 PM   #114
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Danger Will Robinson . lolz heres another warning.. http://www.e90post.com/forums/showthread.php?t=922475
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      12-10-2013, 07:03 AM   #115
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bunch of dudes that belong on this tumblr in this thread: http://creepywhiteguys.tumblr.com/
All those posting to that poor girl reminds me of a guy I knew in high school. He would tell you dating girls is a numbers game, he did not care if he insulated 100 women as long as one agree to have sex with him. 1% was better than nothing at all and he did usually get someone to go home with him.
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Why wont this thread just die? With Asian voice; :"Summary, 90% Asian girl have stick up ass, controlled by fasha and moshea".


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Danger Will Robinson . lolz heres another warning.. http://www.e90post.com/forums/showthread.php?t=922475
Yeah.. Poor guy. I know of many women that make their men endlessly spend on them.
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