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View Poll Results: What should I do?
Ignore the problem. She's just a fling. Continue to enjoy her company. 5 5.56%
Do a line with her! 9 10.00%
Dump her. This is bad. Just walk away. Not your problem. 26 28.89%
Help her get help. She may not be your girlfriend, but you should help her avoid a dark path. 39 43.33%
Escalate the issue. Start taking more drugs with her and enjoy crazy sex with the bitch. 11 12.22%
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      05-17-2013, 01:39 AM   #1
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Caught my girlfriend snorting/crushing up painkillers

Came home a bit early tonight from my gym session (I end everyday with a 40 minute walk on the treadmill) to find my girlfriend (not really my girlfriend, more like a mutual fling/rebound for both of us) snorting painkillers.

Rolled up dollar, razor blade, and crushed percocet. LOL.

She didn't even try to hide it or deny it.

I played it off, but obviously I'm a bit concerned.

What should I do? Poll is attached.

Disclaimer: We hooked up a year ago kinda randomly. I didn't date her because I thought she was trouble. Very insecure. She ended up getting a boyfriend. Boyfriend cheated on her. She was heartbroken. Lately we have been hooking up because I'm kinda on the rebound as well. I obviously don't want to see her hurt herself but I'm not sure I really want to get involved in her recovery, if she even needs recovery. I've been around the party scene enough to know that some people use drugs and become addicts. Others can use occasionally and still function like normal. Truthfully, I have lots of friends that do coke, painkillers, X, weed, etc, on weekends and hold great/high paying day jobs. My biggest shock coming out of college was going to my first work "party" and finding out that most of the "top" guys at the firm do coke.

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At the very least I guess I need to hide my bottle of Vicodin (I have half a bottle of Vicodin left over from winter when I tore up my shoulder. Luckily my shoulder is better now and I never needed to have surgery or finish the prescription). And now that I caught her snorting pills, I kinda wonder if she has already been looking around my medicine cabinets or taken a few of these already.

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For the record, I draw the line at alcohol.
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      05-17-2013, 01:50 AM   #2
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Umm... I'm not going to vote because I think this thread is retarded. Man up and do the right thing. Obviously you must care enough to start a ridiculous poll on this forum. I'm sure all the trolls will be out shortly to flame this thread.

In before thread closure/
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      05-17-2013, 02:05 AM   #3
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Umm... I'm not going to vote because I think this thread is retarded. Man up and do the right thing. Obviously you must care enough to start a ridiculous poll on this forum. I'm sure all the trolls will be out shortly to flame this thread.

In before thread closure/

I guess the "right" thing to do is to sit her down and tell her to stop. If she doesn't stop, then I get her help.

If she was my girlfriend, then I agree that would be the proper way to handle this.

Thing is, our relationship is pretty casual. I'm not sure I have the "right" to tell her to stop. And I'm not sure I'd want to get involved in getting her intervention. The easiest thing may be to just walk away and write her off as another crazy chick that I met in my youth.

And who knows, maybe she is one of the "functioning" drug users I mentioned above. Despite that the folks at DARE tell us, they do exist. There are lots of em.
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      05-17-2013, 03:32 AM   #4
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My advice would be to hit it and quit it.

If you consider her ur gf yet u say that ur not sure if ur in a position to tell her to stop that means shes not really that much of a gf.
Also, do u really want a gf thats snorting pills? Especially when ur not into that kinda thing... And if u do tell her to stop do u really think she will stop?
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      05-17-2013, 03:48 AM   #5
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marry her?
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      05-17-2013, 03:56 AM   #6
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Painkillers can be really addictive, but if its just something she does for fun once in a while, they aren't a strong drug by any stretch of the imagination. I'd dump her either way though, people that enjoy downers are usually big trouble and freak me out. If you think she has a problem you can sit her down and have a talk with her, but if this is the first time you've seen it I doubt its something major.
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She should use at least a 20 not a dollar.
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Well as a physician, I feel what she is doing is (a) illegal and (b) addictive behavior. It is only a matter of time before her gateway drug is replaced with a more addictive substance. She likely has major depression as well that is untreated. She needs helps.

Also, you should throw away the Vicodin or give it to a pharmacy that takes refuse medication. You should ever keep old prescriptions.
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Gone with her. A friend had a similar situation. The significant other was busted, lost their job, and wasnt able to provide for the family. Got help and everything was better for a couple years and now they're back on the pills and the same thing has happened. If you dont want to deal with this behavior down the road, dump her now and move on.

I have a simple rule for relationships that saves me from ongoing agonizing relationships. You fuck up big once and you're gone. Cheating, drugs, abuse, or anything big argument that will come back down the road to fuck things up are all grounds for terminating the relationship.
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If she doesn't want help then I don't really think getting her the help will do anything. I have zero tolerance for significant others and drugs, but that's jsut me.
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She is passed being addicted and I am sure she has been doing it for a while if she didn't even try to hide it. She is probably in to other shit as well, if you care for her then get her help. If you don't then cut ties and move on.
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I love the comment about how people use on the weekend and work like dogs during the week so they do not have a problem. I personally witness these people get addicted. These people will go years without a problem and only use on the weekend until something in their lives happens pushing them over the edge and they begin using all the time.

I never seen people who as a mater of course use on the weekend keep doing it and never have problem, either they stop using for various reason or the become a serious user. There are too many life stresses that people have to deal with that the drugs are an easier answer.
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Maybe you should be a man and stop posting shit like this on the internet and decide for yourself.
If you care say something, if not don't-


Instead lets make a thread on the internet to solve your question.

Kill yo self plz. Maybe take her with u.
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Well as a physician, I feel what she is doing is (a) illegal and (b) addictive behavior. It is only a matter of time before her gateway drug is replaced with a more addictive substance. She likely has major depression as well that is untreated. She needs helps.

Also, you should throw away the Vicodin or give it to a pharmacy that takes refuse medication. You should ever keep old prescriptions.
what this guy says and I would add run as fast as you can away from this girl.

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2 things.

Can't vote without pics of her... and is/was she living with you?
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Dumb thread OP. Don't you have friends you can talk about this crap with?
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Having witnessed friends and family members go down this dark path, I will only say that this story never ends well. You will ask her to get help or stop, she won't, resentment will form, they will do it to rebel, the animosity will eventually come to a boiling point where you can't stand each other. I've "lost" relationships with a cousin and a best friend to prescription drug addiction and it's one of the worst experiences. They assume you can't tell when they're high, they find a doctor willing to give them what they want and then tell you you're not smarter than a doctor, etc. It's just a fucking fiasco. I'm getting ripping mad just writing this. If you guys aren't that close, just be up front and tell her you want her to stop it otherwise you're gone. Simple as that. We've all seen this movie and it never ends well.
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If you love her - help. If you don't - leave. Pretty simple in the end.
This.

And Percs are already in an area where you don't need to worry about it just being a gateway drug. She's already there IMO, a gateway drug would have been something milder. Percs are crazy, nothing to fuck with in their own right.
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She obviously likes to party. Put it in her pooper and call it a day. Tell her that can be her new drug
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