E90Post
 


ECS BMW
 
BMW 3-Series (E90 E92) Forum > BIMMERPOST Universal Forums > Off-Topic Discussions Board > Fatherhood tips



Reply
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
      08-25-2010, 03:41 PM   #1
Trijicon
Second Lieutenant
 
Drives: BMW 335i
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Bay Area, CA

Posts: 236
iTrader: (0)

Fatherhood tips

Hey guys,

I'm expecting my first child in March. I have tons of emotions going on right now. I'm scared, so excited, nervous, anxious, worried, but most of all extremely happy.

A little background, I'm 3 yrs married, have a home, two cars (e92 335i and a B8 A4 Avant, wife's car), both in early 30's, both have good jobs and enjoying the DINK life, for now.

Just wondering if any experienced fathers out there can give me any tips, words of wisdom, advise, barriers or road blocks to watch for. Also, what are your great moments with your kids. What childhood life events/milestones should I cherish or take in? what were your worth while sacrifices? what weren't? How do you measure success in raising your child?

Trijicon is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 03:47 PM   #2
BTM
Banned
 
Drives: A///MERICAN!!!
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: A///MERICA!!!

Posts: 10,314
iTrader: (11)

Garage List
Congratulations!

No tips other than if your kid turned out to be the opposite of this guy http://www.e90post.com/forums/showpo...&postcount=571 (quoted, not the poster) he should be fine
BTM is offline   United_States
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 03:52 PM   #3
stimey
Private First Class
 
Drives: e90
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: nova

Posts: 178
iTrader: (3)

529
stimey is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 03:55 PM   #4
Trijicon
Second Lieutenant
 
Drives: BMW 335i
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Bay Area, CA

Posts: 236
iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by BTM View Post
Congratulations!

No tips other than if your kid turned out to be the opposite of this guy http://www.e90post.com/forums/showpo...&postcount=571 (quoted, not the poster) he should be fine
hahaha, I'll try.

Quote:
Originally Posted by stimey View Post
529
Don't get it
Trijicon is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 03:55 PM   #5
DougLikesBMW
Fapmin
 
DougLikesBMW's Avatar
 
Drives: '03 E46 330Ci
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Plano, Texas

Posts: 2,661
iTrader: (0)

I am not a father, but I just wanted to say... Discipline them and discipline them well, most kids these days are douchebag pieces of scum. Also, if you have a girl, please for the love of god don't let her turn into a whore. Don't spoil them either.

These things should be obvious, but apparently it is not, as the majority of the parents in the US are deadbeats.
DougLikesBMW is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 03:58 PM   #6
BTM
Banned
 
Drives: A///MERICAN!!!
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: A///MERICA!!!

Posts: 10,314
iTrader: (11)

Garage List
LOL having a good day Doug?
BTM is offline   United_States
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 04:10 PM   #7
DougLikesBMW
Fapmin
 
DougLikesBMW's Avatar
 
Drives: '03 E46 330Ci
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Plano, Texas

Posts: 2,661
iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by BTM View Post
LOL having a good day Doug?
Yep, today has been great .
DougLikesBMW is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 04:58 PM   #8
JayKay335i
Banned
 
Drives: ///M323 DCT
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: North Dakota; its best DUHHHHHH

Posts: 5,047
iTrader: (1)

Congrats.

Don't caught cheating. You'll pay for that for the rest of your life. Literally.
JayKay335i is offline   Egypt
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 04:59 PM   #9
ghosthi32
Banned
 
Drives: Water camel
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: strait of hormuz

Posts: 2,516
iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by DougLikesBMW View Post
Yep, today has been great .
ghosthi32 is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 05:19 PM   #10
DougLikesBMW
Fapmin
 
DougLikesBMW's Avatar
 
Drives: '03 E46 330Ci
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Plano, Texas

Posts: 2,661
iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by JayKay335i View Post
Congrats.

Don't caught cheating. You'll pay for that for the rest of your life. Literally.
He lives in Cali...only way he could get stuck paying alimony (for life) is if this happened after the 10 year mark of marriage.

This also means, she could cheat on you after 10 years with another guy, divorce you and still get your alimony + child support (for life).
DougLikesBMW is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 05:24 PM   #11
brocken
Captain
 
Drives: 335i
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Seattle, WA

Posts: 605
iTrader: (5)

Quote:
Originally Posted by Trijicon View Post
Also, what are your great moments with your kids. What childhood life events/milestones should I cherish or take in? what were your worth while sacrifices? what weren't? How do you measure success in raising your child?


Greatest moments? All of them! Well, the mudbutt moments aren't too fun but any time I spend with my little girl is the best feeling.
As for the rest, I don't think anybody can really answer that for you.
The best advice I can give you is to figure it out yourself. The fact that you care enough to think about being a good dad and ask for advice means you'll do fine.

Oh, start stocking up on diapers ahead of time. And buy like 10 each of all the small stuff (bottles, washcloths, etc.). And buy stock in baby wipes.
brocken is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 05:45 PM   #12
Bmoney2K4
Captain
 
Drives: 04 Lexus GS 300
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Los Angeles, California

Posts: 792
iTrader: (0)

my brother just had a child two weeks ago with his wife. It seems like a bitch, i wouldn't want to do it especially in today's times. Just keep your child safe, secure and pray he or she has good people around him whether it be friends or family.
Bmoney2K4 is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 05:58 PM   #13
Trijicon
Second Lieutenant
 
Drives: BMW 335i
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Bay Area, CA

Posts: 236
iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by DougLikesBMW View Post
He lives in Cali...only way he could get stuck paying alimony (for life) is if this happened after the 10 year mark of marriage.

This also means, she could cheat on you after 10 years with another guy, divorce you and still get your alimony + child support (for life).
Dammit that sucks for CA guys.

Quote:
Originally Posted by brocken View Post
Greatest moments? All of them! Well, the mudbutt moments aren't too fun but any time I spend with my little girl is the best feeling.
As for the rest, I don't think anybody can really answer that for you.
The best advice I can give you is to figure it out yourself. The fact that you care enough to think about being a good dad and ask for advice means you'll do fine.

Oh, start stocking up on diapers ahead of time. And buy like 10 each of all the small stuff (bottles, washcloths, etc.). And buy stock in baby wipes.
Cool thanks. Do you have ticker symbol :P
Trijicon is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 06:01 PM   #14
DougLikesBMW
Fapmin
 
DougLikesBMW's Avatar
 
Drives: '03 E46 330Ci
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Plano, Texas

Posts: 2,661
iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by brocken View Post
Greatest moments? All of them! Well, the mudbutt moments aren't too fun but any time I spend with my little girl is the best feeling.
As for the rest, I don't think anybody can really answer that for you.
The best advice I can give you is to figure it out yourself. The fact that you care enough to think about being a good dad and ask for advice means you'll do fine.

Oh, start stocking up on diapers ahead of time. And buy like 10 each of all the small stuff (bottles, washcloths, etc.). And buy stock in baby wipes.
Oh, I would suggest looking into the subscribe & save feature on Amazon for items such as these.
DougLikesBMW is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 06:04 PM   #15
stimey
Private First Class
 
Drives: e90
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: nova

Posts: 178
iTrader: (3)

Don't get it[/quote]

A 529 plan is an education savings plan operated by a state or educational institution designed to help families set aside funds for future college costs.
stimey is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 06:09 PM   #16
san~man
Tired
 
san~man's Avatar
 
Drives: BMW-less
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: USA

Posts: 2,610
iTrader: (7)

Patience. When you think you have enough, get more
Start saving for college as soon as baby is born.
Teach the value of money
Instill good morals and integrity
Don't let your relationship with your wife become less important. Schedule date nights, have a babysitter watch the little one, make time for yourselves.
Take a lot of pictures Too much is never enough

Did I say patience?
__________________
BMW-less
san~man is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 06:10 PM   #17
Trijicon
Second Lieutenant
 
Drives: BMW 335i
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Bay Area, CA

Posts: 236
iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by stimey View Post
Don't get it

A 529 plan is an education savings plan operated by a state or educational institution designed to help families set aside funds for future college costs.
Aaahhhh nice! Thank you sir. We are meeting with our financial advisor next week. I'll mention this
Trijicon is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 07:08 PM   #18
achien
AC
 
Drives: E90 Post Members Crazy
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Toronto, Canada

Posts: 2,378
iTrader: (0)

You are looking to tune your 335i, because that will be the last BMW you will ever buy.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Trijicon View Post
...

what were your worth while sacrifices?

__________________
Your Supreme Leader
achien is offline   Canada
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 07:28 PM   #19
Trijicon
Second Lieutenant
 
Drives: BMW 335i
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Bay Area, CA

Posts: 236
iTrader: (0)

Quote:
Originally Posted by achien View Post
You are looking to tune your 335i, because that will be the last BMW you will ever buy.


maybe tune after my initial warranty expires
Trijicon is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 07:28 PM   #20
DarkRider23
Lieutenant
 
Drives: 2006 325xi
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: New Jersey

Posts: 444
iTrader: (0)

Well, first off, congrats Tri . I'm not a father, but there are some things I've experienced first hand that you need to teach your kid. Don't spoil your kid and give your kid chores as soon as you can. It sounds like something simple, but most parents I know spoil the hell out of their kids, buy them everything they want and don't make them do anything around the house. My sister is one of those kids and she's just spoiled to hell. Getting her to just throw out the trash becomes a shouting match between my parents and her. Had my parents actually disciplined her and made her do things around the house like I did when I was a kid, she wouldn't be like that.

Make sure ya teach your kid the value of money too. Again, something people I know aren't doing or have not done. Most of my friends (18-21) are in credit card debt because their parents had a "I'm not going to teach my kid anything about money." Debt comes cheap. Getting out of it, doesn't.

Teach your kid how to respect people and their belongings too. I'm getting sick and tired of seeing 16 year old kids calling every one they see out on the street a douchebag or cursing them out. While we're on the subject of respect, objects need to be respected too. The next time I see a kid riding his bike in circles and doing "tricks" around my car, I'm taking the damn bike and throwing it in my trunk without any warning. That will teach him/her. And if it doesn't fit in the trunk, I'll take that thing apart to make it fit.

Taking care of a kid can be quite a task too. Like I said before, I don't have kids, but I've done my fair share of taking care of kids and it's a blast. They will always cheer you up. Have fun .
DarkRider23 is offline  
0
Reply With Quote
      08-25-2010, 11:04 PM   #21
Tortfeasor 335xi
Corporate Hack
 
Tortfeasor 335xi's Avatar
 
Drives: '08 335xi Coupe
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Princeton, NJ / Philly, PA

Posts: 288
iTrader: (0)

Get a hot young nanny. That way you don't have to help parent, and when your wife loses interest in you and lavishes the newborn with all her affection, you can hit on the help.

If you can't afford a live in nanny, consider buying a crib, putting it in front of the tv and looking at a lot of internet porn.

As for success, if its a boy, if you can keep him out of jail and through college, you win. If its a girl, if you can keep her from getting pregnant before she graduates college, again you win.

In all seriousness though, just spend time with the kids, teach them as much as you can, and love them for who they are.
__________________
New Car: 2008 335xi Coupe
Earlier Car: 2004 STi (got stolen)
Earlier Earlier Car: 1995 Mustang GT (416 whp and a blown engine)
Really Much Earlier Car: 1988 Mazda 626 TURBO
Tortfeasor 335xi is offline   United_States
0
Reply With Quote
      08-26-2010, 01:19 AM   #22
scollins
Bootleggin' 'n Gunrunnin'
 
scollins's Avatar
 
Drives: 2010 e70 X5 35d
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Renton, WA

Posts: 2,345
iTrader: (3)

I've got two daughters, but I'm too tired and/or lazy right now to lavish a lot of fatherly advice. I can share this bit of wisdom however....

If you have a boy, you have one penis to worry about. (Where he puts it and how much trouble it will cause.)
If you have a girl, you have to worry about ALL of them!
__________________
Scott
2010 E70 X5 35d
Alpine White on Black with Dark Bamboo trim
ZAP | ZCW | ZPP | ZPS | ZRC | ZTP | 322 | 328 | 330 | 386 | 4AZ | 4UB | 655 | 6FL | 6NF
2008 Ducati 1098S Red naturally....
scollins is offline   No_Country
0
Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Forum Jump


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 02:41 AM.




e90post
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.7.0
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
1Addicts.com, BIMMERPOST.com, E90Post.com, F30Post.com, M3Post.com, ZPost.com, 5Post.com, 6Post.com, 7Post.com, XBimmers.com logo and trademark are properties of BIMMERPOST