OK OK did a re-initialization of the sunroof and BAM! it works now! just push the button that makes the sunroof go up, so the middle button for about 20-25 seconds. it will do all these tests. i kept the button held down til it was done to make sure it didn't lose power. thanks for all the help guys. here are some pics of the install:
this is what the clip looks like so dont be going nuts trying to pry it, its a clip so get the toolkit screwdriver and just unclip and pull down gently. a flat plastic tool will not really work so i dont understand how some are doing this:
we used the bundle to the right with the two yellow wires next to each other. we used a voltmeter to test which one and clipped on the 3M wiretap and boom thats it.
here is the final installed product. it looks great and has a great location to read.
thanks to all the first posters who made this possible. thanks again!