You're talking to a traditional/OEM+style of modder here and I can tell you being brutally honest, there is nothing ghetto about those wheels.
The car could be raised a touch but I don't think the height it's at is necessarily "too low".
Saying all of that, if your ex's comments really are getting to you and you want to change things up, I think a gunmetal/black combo could also look gorgeous on your car.
