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11-11-2022, 08:33 PM | #23 |
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Not really. That's probably also a big reason for the disconnect. I'm not very close to any of my family. And that's mainly due to me being the odd one out. But if I was to have a talk with him, it would be more centered around him growing up. I can't expect my parents to change at this point in their lives, nor is it worth the friction, but I do think he needs to mature.
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I think it's typical of many south Asian family dynamics. For my parents, life was all about survival. Any "leisure" related activities were centered around kids... and any "vacations" were just trips back home. Now that kids are grown, the parents don't really know what to do with themselves. Hell I can't even pay for them to take an actual vacation. I tried buying them a resort vacation for their birthdays and they made me cancel saying "what would we do there?"
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I ASSume that you are charging for gas, your time, plus per-mile depreciation on mom's taxi?????
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I dunno, dude, I think maybe you gotta make your folks understand it's a pretty big hassle for you, it's not about blind respect for the elders, if they're wrong, they're wrong...just that you don't diss them outright but say it nicely haha. So, I don't think they should have that mentality of what you stated in your last para, that would be crazy if after you tried to be reasonable they would still hold it against you, not as if your bro's an invalid and helpless. Heck, you're even so nice to throw in a free uber. Srsly though, no culture is completely right and this is where you should listen to the Western homies and set some boundaries...like I said, it's kinda crazy they expect you to do this 3+ hour thing w/o any consideration of you, esp when you're a family man. Obviously, the status quo is not cool. GL.
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11-11-2022, 08:47 PM | #27 |
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Well, to me family means everything. But I play favorites too. I'm much closer to my daughter than my son. That's not all my fault. My son thinks of his friends as his family where my daughter knows who is family and who is not.
I guess it's tough all over.
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I should just bust out the card reader and ask for payment
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Seriously, I don’t understand.
Are you asking if it’s a cultural thing? Or if you shouldn’t give rides if you don’t want to? Or if it’s ok to feel indignant? Or? |
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I'm not really sure... somehow this whole thing turned into a rant/therapy session
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Do you also enjoy taking extra long bathroom breaks and appreciate the looks of the g80? Because if so, we are totally twinning.
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This clashes with my toxic masculinity. Quick, someone cold start a v8 and cook me a steak medium rare.
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Hell no and hellz no then. Oh well haha.
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You’re not an asshole for feeling indignant. But try not to think that way, because it only makes it worse when you inevitably give the ride anyway. Think of it as an opportunity to see family when they’re coming back, maybe meet them inside to make an event, etc. Next time put up a funny sign as if you’re a limo driver like “porn awards ceremony - name - party of 1” and hang it up so it’s visible to all coming through as if you don’t know him/her. |
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The beaver-toothed Bimmer??? HELL NO!!!!!!!!!! LMAO.
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And here I thought we were making progress...
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Ah... the testosterone... it's returning...
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