[ejazbmw]

damn i never thought I'd see the day where i ask for personal advice on here but I hit rock bottom alright so i know this girl for about 5 or 6 months and we've become pretty good friends i guess you can say everything was cool and all until she texted me on Monday asking for help. She said she needs a place to stay before Friday since her land lord has to sell the place. I know its last minute and all but she had a plan to move in with her friend but she bailed on her.

sooo i showed her my basement since its big, has all the things someone needs to live and all bathroom, kitchen 2 bedrooms she fell in love with it, so we agreed for 450 a month since cash is tight for her. But now I'm kinda having second thoughts she needs a place for good she doesn't want to move anymore but i plan on moving within this year. And my mom lives with me and she kinda doesn't want someone to live with us. sooo now hopefully this is where you guys come in and give me some advice I'm mean i don't want her to be homeless (which she will if i don't take her in) but i don't think I want her to stay with us or at least i think i don't?

I'm so confused I've been losing sleep over this shes a great girl and i don't want to lose her as a friend or maybe more? anyway thanks for taking the time to read this long ass story hopefully everything will be fine...

[BMWdmk]

when you move out to your new place

offer her the same rate/more (depending how much it costs you)
BUT MAKE SURE it's just until she gets back on her feet

if your mother wants her out now
tell her the house is out of your reach, but you can offer to stay with you
when you move out

[wuufer001]

if she's such a good friend then she should understand what kind of situation you are in. just tell her that you will be moving and ask her nicely to find a place or even better, go with her together to find a place. this will make her think that you are not just trying to get rid of her but also helping her on the other side.

[Stephii_Rawr]

Originally Posted by wuufer001

if she's such a good friend then she should understand what kind of situation you are in. just tell her that you will be moving and ask her nicely to find a place or even better, go with her together to find a place. this will make her think that you are not just trying to get rid of her but also helping her on the other side.

+1

also tell her how your mother feels... and helping her find a place would be better than her crashing in your basement... im sure she can find another place.. either other friends or a cheap bedroom...

you shouldnt go on a guilt trip over it... now go get some sleeeeeeeep ^_^
im sure she wouldnt want to stress you out too

good luck!! and i hope your friend finds a place soon!

[Stephii_Rawr]

question: where is your friend from?
because i know my uncle is renting out his house...
if that could be any help..

[MoreCowbell]

Send me a picture of her. I'll take care of the situation and make it look like an accident.

Peace.

[Stephii_Rawr]

Originally Posted by MoreCowbell

Send me a picture of her. I'll take care of the situation and make it look like an accident.

Peace.

so i guess his advice is hire a hitman.. LOL
end her misery.. lol! thats horrible!

[just4kickz]

word. if shes a good friend who's not to self centered (not in a bad way but in a perspective way), she'll understand the situation. i mean your not obligated to give her another solution, but if you have one it'll make telling her alot easier.... plus seems like anything will do for her... lol just go rent a janky apartment and share rent. mines 450 right now

[aznshrek88]

God, don't you hate women?
1) Find a place for her or help her search and movein/moveout
2) If you want to help her its best to keep her separate from your own home since you obviously have objections

Or you could lighten up and let her stay, but who knows where it will go....friends are friends, help them out but if you have only known her for such a short period of time, I don't think its a good idea to let her move into your own place, especially if your mom is living with you...

IF you lose her as a friend, then fuck that, you always have friends and ppl who come in and out of your life...if she's truly that good of a friend she would understand, just help her out as much as you can...her friends bailed on her so I don't see how it makes you obligated.

[ModMyVi]

move your mom out... haha

[ejazbmw]

Originally Posted by ModMyVi

move your mom out... haha

lol i wish but shes my mom

anyway thanks for the quick responds guys i think i'll end up just telling her that shes needs to find another place. 3:45 am still no sleep lol I'm just worried shes not going to have a place to stay after Friday so I may take her to some hotel or something until we can figure something out.

[sinnet112]

You should at least let her stay for a little bit if she's going to be homeless without you, but do reiterate to her that this is temporary and make sure she's actively searching to find a place.

[Kiemyster]

how old are you? and tell me, do you live with your mom? or does your mom live with you? (who pays the bills+mortgage)

[ejazbmw]

Originally Posted by Kiemyster

how old are you? and tell me, do you live with your mom? or does your mom live with you? (who pays the bills+mortgage)

lol i knew this question was coming soon I'm 23 and my mom lives with me ie I pay for all the bills and stuff, shes just here until my sister comes back from NY which is for another 2 months. Anyway i think I'm going to have to let her stay at least for a week i just can't let her stay in the streets I'm to nice for that to happen

[ejazbmw]

Originally Posted by sinnet112

You should at least let her stay for a little bit if she's going to be homeless without you, but do reiterate to her that this is temporary and make sure she's actively searching to find a place.

i really like your idea so I'm stealing it

[nmulax]

+1 on what's been said already.

Let her move in for a week or so - till you can help her find her own place. Make sure she knows it's just a temporary situation. She doesn't need to know your mom's feelings (that'll only create tension between those two; and if she's a smart girl, I'm sure she'll realize it on her own). As for your mom, just explain that this is your choice to make and that you're not going to let a friend be on the streets when you have the ability to help.

[Eazyrock]

Just be honest with her and remember there's only so much you can do.

[ejazbmw]

soo i plan i telling her tonight over dinner just to show her i still care for her. I hope i don't bitch out lol

[Josh49]

Originally Posted by nmulax

+1 on what's been said already.

Let her move in for a week or so - till you can help her find her own place. Make sure she knows it's just a temporary situation. She doesn't need to know your mom's feelings (that'll only create tension between those two; and if she's a smart girl, I'm sure she'll realize it on her own). As for your mom, just explain that this is your choice to make and that you're not going to let a friend be on the streets when you have the ability to help.

+1

If she's going to be absolutely homeless, I would put her up for a week or so while she find a new place.. Within a week she should be able to find a cheap place on Craigslist or something..

[ejazbmw]

alright so i told her she can stay for 2 weeks until she gets a nice place she likes she seemed fine with the idea since i said I'll help in anyway. Thanks for all the advice guys i appreciate it

[BMXtreme]

What happened to your wife?