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      01-07-2011, 01:55 AM   #1
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girl problem?

so ive been talking to this girl. We've gone out on 2 dates and ive held her hand on the 2nd date. Our next date is on sunday. My question is this. Since the 2nd date (Mon), ive tried to call her and she does pick up and chat with me that was tue night she does say she wants to hang out with me and sounds interested. The next day i chatted with her on AIM. (wed night) and we chatted about how my friends want to do a double date thing on sunday. Her response was positive saying "i like to meet new people, it sounds fun". Is she implying that she is interested as being friends with me or something else? If a girl is interested would they have called me today since i told her i was feeling sick last night or should i just not think about it? It feels that its all 1 way. Me really trying and initiating. What should i do?
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      01-07-2011, 01:57 AM   #2
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awwwww you guys held hands on the second date

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      01-07-2011, 02:11 AM   #3
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Relax dude, It's only been 2 dates! I wouldn't double date till I've actually done something with her other than hold her hand.
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      01-07-2011, 02:13 AM   #4
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Bro, you scream beta

You never built attraction with her and failed to escalate physically with her, gotta fix that and it's still too soon to introduce her to your friend on a double date, quick way to make her feel uncomfortable if she doesn't know the other two
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Watch the Movie Swingers. Will answer all your questions, even the ones you haven't even thought of yet.

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man u shoulda went in for a kiss on the first date...now she probably thinks you are gay or something
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don't be so mean guys

you feeling it's all one way is natural sign of a lack of confidence

think, feel, and understand that you are the shit
and she's cute and all, but you're the shit and she should be happy to go out with you

but yeah don't do a double date thing if she doesn't know the other 2

BUT if they're mutual friends, it could be fun

I'm too tired to be of any more use
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      01-07-2011, 06:03 AM   #9
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It's only 2 dates in. You haven't blown anything yet.

I typically go for a kiss at the end of the second date, but not like a 3rd date would be too late. I absolutely would kiss her before the third date ends if I were you though, she's out with you three times now so shes's obviously interested - make you move or she'll loose interest in you.

I wouldn't double date that soon. It you expect to get anywhere you need private time with her right now.
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      01-07-2011, 07:55 AM   #10
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I use to prefer to at least get some head on the first date. if not it wasn't likely i kept interest too long. if we didn't slam by date 2 or 3 she was gone
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you're very very quickly approaching the friend zone.. take it for someone who knows that zone very well. you need to get aggressive or you're fucked
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"If you're having girl problems, I feel bad for you son.
I've got 99 problems and a b!1#$ ain't one."

Lol, had to say that based on your thread title.

Seriously, I'm not sure if you're late 20's or older, but these games get old. Just do what feels natural and use common sense man. You will go crazy trying to interpret every little aspect of your interaction with her.
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      01-07-2011, 08:24 AM   #13
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You sound like a needy puppy dog. Welcome to the friend zone.
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Seriously, I'm not sure if you're late 20's or older, but these games get old. Just do what feels natural and use common sense man. You will go crazy trying to interpret every little aspect of your interaction with her.


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+1 to do what comes naturally...if she is GENUINELY interested in you as a person it won't matter two shits how fast you start making moves
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      01-07-2011, 09:02 AM   #17
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^^True. Cant double date till you get it in. Unless you're dating other men.
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      01-07-2011, 09:49 AM   #18
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you're thinking too hard about it, and like others have said, you are approaching the friend zone. double dates are for two couples, not a couple and a guy that hopes he still has a chance
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      01-07-2011, 09:51 AM   #19
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Watch the Movie Swingers. Will answer all your questions, even the ones you haven't even thought of yet.

agreed.

I have to fast forward through the phone message scene, I get physically uncomfortable.
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By the sound of it, you are not a player so you have to relax and not think too much about anything other than just try having a good time like if you were hanging with one of your buddies. When the time comes she will show you some sort of sign e.g. Passively touching you while talking or just that special look and then and only then you make your move and not too aggressively! The point is relax make her laugh and if the planets are aligned everything will fall into place. Otherwise you may have just made a new friend
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Shes sleeping with somebody else. At this very moment. While you are reading this thread.
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